37 and pregnant

[Jem2409]

Hi! I am so sorry to bug people but I am new to this. I have recently found I am pregnant. I am 37 years old and only been with my partner 8 months. I genuinely thought I couldn't get pregnant as I have tried with my exes over 17 years and now I am.
I don't know if I will be with this guy forever (he is 17 years older than me) and I am freaking out. I don't know whether to keep or not. I am financially secure but I am not sure if I could cope on my own. Like emotionally, financially as this is all new to me.
This is a total shock - my partner is happy to keep it but because his life doesn't change that much. He will have to move in with me and hes also in the process of getting divorced. I know life isn't always as we planned but I feel so scared about what to do.
This might be my only opportunity at my age to have a child but if it was at least a year later maybe I would know where me and the other half are going.
Sorry for the essay its just my mind is going into overdrive. I don't have long to "make a decision" so any advise would be so gratefully appreciated!

Thanks xxxx

Congratulations op. After 17years this really does count as a miracle. As you say this might be your only chance.

Honestly if I’d been trying that long I wouldn’t care if I had to do it alone or not. Congratulations! Once the shock wears off you’ll be alright

I had a ds at 37. His df wasn't around. Not my first dc but def a blessing!!
Congratulations op!!
Even women in the best 'position' have wobbles about pregnancy - and at any age!!
You will be more than fine -

Only you can decide what’s best for you but personally I think keep it you’ll be fine. Children bring out strengths in you that you never knew you had. After 17years to fall pregnant can only be a positive sign and if age is worrying you I’m 40 and pregnant with twins lol. Trust me as much as I had reservations of age and health issues that may arise it’s going well and we soldier on. Good luck with it all and keep smiling xx

I was with my ex for 18 months (I know it’s not that long) when I found I was wasted pregnant and he begged me to keep our baby and disappeared without a trace. You never know what is going. As you’ve been trying for 17 years I would say keep the baby.
A friend told me once “things work out with babies” and I’d be inclined to agree and I had to give up everything (dream job, home, friends) to have mine.

He sounds really supportive, so even if things don't work out, he could still be a good dad X I know what you mean about the fear though. Sometimes I wonder if I'm ready, but I still have 7 more months to get there 😀 I'd say keep it, but tbh only you know what's best. So you know how he feels? Some guys won't even mention abortion cause they know it's a shirt thing to do, you might find it you both feel the same, or if he wants it, you might be less fearful of keeping it. Either way, congrats and good luck

You will be fine, honestly op you got this. Regardless of your relationship you will be fine. Get some support groups set up if you need them eg friends, family, expectant mums locally so you have someone to help you with the mental load regardless of if you and your DP work out. Congratulations!

It really is amazing just how much you dont realise you can cope with until it happens :) chances are everything will go well and if your partner is happy with the news then thats already one major positive step. I have brought up one child on my own since he was 2 and am on my second pregnancy with my 'partner' having done a runner since the moment i told him i was pregnant. It doesnt phase me, it will be hard but if it comes to the worst bringing up a child alone is just as rewarding, if not more so because one day you will be able to sit back and realise what a wonderful job you have done of bringing up a child all on your own. Not that im saying its going to come to that, but dont fear the worst. And congrats!

Thank you thank you thank you for all your lovely replies. Genuinely so grateful to you all. I guess there is no "right" time and you all have made me feel so much better!
Wish me luck! Cant even imagine how its going to be in 9 months!
Thank you again :)