Where to spend Christmas.. bf wants to go to his aunt/uncles

[Idontknow777]

I’m 24 weeks rn and we been trying to figure out Christmas. My bf asked me what I was doing and I said I don’t know. Most of my family doesn’t live here/the ones who do aren’t close at all so we sadly don’t have big get together even tho that’s something I always wanted. I’m really happy to be starting my own family now but..

So he mentioned of going to his aunt and uncles w his mom and sister. They live an hour and a half from where we live. I dont know if I was even invited but if I was I don’t want to go. I only saw his mom& sister once during this pregnancy, and they didn’t say congratulations to me or say one word about the pregnancy or soon to be baby. It was extremely uncomfortable and I don’t wanam spend my Christmas around his moms family if that’s how they’re gonna act.

My mom says he didn’t know what she’s doing. I’ll pribanly just go see her (she lives an hr from me) for a little bit then spend the rest of Christmas in our house alone!

It sucks bc I’m pregnant and feel like I should be getting xtra love but it feels like he opposite. I’m also just annoyed w my bf I know it’s his family but he’s gonna leave me in the gutter to go to his aunts/uncles.

His mom never respected me as his gf and says mean indirect stuff like how girlfriends aren’t important unless ur married. So she’s prob pissed I’m pregnant & my bf isn’t taking care of her & his his sister anymore (as he shouldn’t be, he’s 26 an they leach off him for money he barely has for us)

Firstly, you shouldn't feel entitled to extra love because you're pregnant. Your partner should love you, regardless. I don't expect my partner to love me extra for 9 months then switch to another kind of love. His love is consistent.

Secondly, your partner isn't dumping you in the gutter. You've been invited, you don't want to go. You have no plans. I'd much rather go spend time with my family who plans to celebrate Christmas than with somebody who has no plans and end up just sitting at home bored like any other day. Christmas is about family. Go along with him.

Thirdly, have you thought the mother and sister didn't raise the pregnancy because you didn't? I have some family not mentioning the pregnancy in case there is an issue. It's my child. It's for me to start a discussion on it if I want to. You're all adults, just speak to them. Relationships work both ways.

Okay rhar makes sense but I feel like they have zero support in the pregnancy and when she’s here they’re gonna wanna see her.

They didn’t even say congratulations or ask me any questions. That’s honestly beyond rude.

Been in your situation love, first time I met bfs family they hardly spoke to me and I was very hurt and disappointed. But I think that's just how some families are. I'd say go and of its awful then you have stable footing for your argument next time. I bet you will enjoy it more than you think! X