Feeling so sad

[Kmacf]

I'm struggling a little to get across how I feel without sounding ungrateful that I'm pregnant. I'm 27, pregnant with my 2nd and I'm only 11 weeks.

I can't help but feel like I am so alone. Baby's dad is in the army but home for a month and stays with his mum (who is not pleased we are having a baby). I have tried to tell him how I feel but he just doesn't understand and seems to think I'm joking. Since telling him I was pregnant (it wasn't planned) he rarely wants to spend time with me. He's 26 and would rather be out all the time just now.

I genuinely have no motivation to do the basics like wash my hair. I'm struggling to keep up chat with my 8yo. I feel so terrible for it. Its so difficult to explain. I don't think this is normal. I don't know if it's hormones but I've felt like this for about 2 weeks now. I'm beginning to think I've maybe made the wrong decision by keeping the baby. I feel terrible for saying that.

I don't really know if anyone else has felt like this or if this is even normal or is there is anyone I can speak to. Advice would be much appreciated.

I would contact your midwife.

Antenatal depression is a very real, but treatable, condition.

I’m sorry that the father is being an arse. Hopefully he’ll come around. If not, do you have a support network in place? Maybe someone to come to scans with you if he doesn’t want to?

The personal hygiene thing might be linked to your general mood, but I could barely be bothered to shower at that point either so isn’t necessarily a concern on it’s own.

Xx

So sorry for you. I agree, definitely talk to your midwife or GP and try to get some mental health support. I'm sure it's normal to feel a bit rubbish in early pregnancy, and especially in a difficult situation like yours, but if you are showing signs of depression (and it sounds like you might) getting it checked out early is a good idea.