How on earth do you do this more than once?!

[Sarahjct]

Hello all

Hope you're all well today. I'm 11+4 with my first (and v. pleased to be pg I should say) and have had the most miserable, grotty 5 weeks of my life with no sign of it getting better. I keep telling DH he'd better cherish this one as I'm sure as hell not doing it again.

But people do. How?? If you've had a rotten time first go, how do you get your head round setting yourself up for it again? I've heard all the stuff about forgetting how awful it was when they arrive but I can't see that being true. I'm going to remember every lousy minute of this! Particularly when I'm doling out the pocket money LOL!

I never forgot how utterly tedious pregnancy was nor how awful childbirth was. But babies are lovely and there aren't many other obvious ways to get them. So you do it again.

I was very, very lucky with ds - no morning sickness, not too much tiredness. This time I had mildish nausea (which seemed a lot worse than it probably was, because I hadn't had any the first time) and OMG, I was knackered. ith a toddler to cope with. I've also had bleeds, a short-lived case of total placenta praevia and a couple of hospital stays. Currently I'm still up for a 3rd Seriously, I think you do forget.

Sarah, I vividly remember saying to DH last time I was pregnant - 'if I ever suggest another baby remind me of how much I hate being pregnant'. It's not that I've had particularly bad pregnancies but I don't really enjoy being pregnant and uncomfortable!!

Anyway, it's true you blot out the bad bits. Once you have your lo you'll realise that even 9 months of hell is worth it!! I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant with number 3

you really will forget, i'm 33wks at the moment and it's only just starting to come back to me

Between 1st and 2nd pgs I forgot all the bad bits and got all rosy-eyed about the good bits (that would be feeling the baby move, before it gets big enough to really thump you). Am now pg again. And this time I remembered quite clearly how horrid pg is. And how much fun the birth isn't. And how bad most of the first year is, actually. But how else am I going to get another gorgeous little 18-month-old? Eyes wide open this time, I know its all hell. But oh toddlers are fantastic.

And your baby may well look like Plug, but you won't realise till its about 2 and you are looking back at the photos. When its a newborn, you'll sit on the postnatal ward and pity all the other mums with their ugly babies and be grateful that you got a gorgeous one.

Hi Sarah

Well Im now 33 weeks and for me it has not got any better I've really really disliked being pregnant and have absolutely no inclination to ever go through this again!

To be honest with you, I nearly didnt
Dh was ready for another one before DD hit the age of 2 years old, but I always said, nope one is fine, im happy with her, never again. I spent weeks in hopsital before and after horrible birth
However, DD was just turning 4 years old, we were choosing schools, friends had started to have other babies and wham, I wanted another
Now 26 weeks and suffering all over again and even dh has said no more after this one
You dont forget a think you just learn that its such a short period of time in their little lifes and they bring so much joy, they are worth every second of feeling like crap
Good lucka nd congrates
Lisa

Pregnancy yeeeuurrggh. I felt sooooo grim for the first 12 weeks and when trying for dc2 was thinking how could I possibly change a dirty nappy if I feel as bad as I did first time around, but I did feel as bad and I did manage to change plenty of dirty nappies (altough did not always manage to do it without being sick!)
Anyway with my first I felt ok once sickness and tiredness had gone and I would definately rather give birth than go through sickness like that again. Second time round sickness went at 12 weeks but tiredness never went and I felt grim the whole time. He is now almost four months old and such a beautiful well behaved smiley boy. I definately want another one but the memory of the pregnancy is too fresh at the moment and I am being quite careful to ensure that it does not happen too soon.

Hi Sarah,

I am 30 weeks with my first and really feel for you as I had a rough first trimester as well. All the advice given so far has been bang on - it does get better really. I remember hitting week 14 and still wondering why I felt like crap and wondering if it would ever stop but the sickness and tiredness slowly faded around week 15-16. And I was sooooo sick - at its peak I was chundering about 4-5 times a day!!

I had several bleeding scares between week 20 and 26 and the first time it happened I really thought that was it and I remember just crying with relief and utter joy to see a scan of my baby kicking away utterly oblivious to the fear he or she had just put its parents through.

When you are 30 weeks and feeling your baby kick the living daylights out of you, you will look back on first trimester yuckness and it will seem like a different world xx