Pregnancy after 2 miscarriages

[Ellivia1]

After feeling not very well for a few days and a missed period, I plucked up the courage to go buy a pregnancy test at 7am this morning 😯 no shock that both came back positive, although very early as lines are not very dark. I'm 36 years of age and over the last 2 years have had 2 miscarriages. The first one at 17 weeks of pregnancy, no answers given as to why and second miscarriage at 8 weeks. I do have two older children, with no problems during pregnancy at all. I told myself after the second miscarriage I could not go through it again, yet have some how ended up back here. Feeling very emotional and terrified, just wondering if anybody else has had similar problems and gone on to have more children. I'm fit and active and eat healthy. Just extremely worried and don't want to tell any family yet as don't want to worry them, Tia x

My first two pregnancies were both (very early) miscarriages - so different to you but still upset me and left me feeling like I couldn't carry a pregnancy. I'm now 27 weeks with my third pregnancy (conceived via a ivf 18 months after the second miscarriage).

I'm so sorry for your losses. The not having answers is very difficult, but not terribly unusual.

All you can do is take one day at a time.

Thank you for the reply. I'm sorry for your losses too, congratulations on your third pregnancy, glad all is going well. I know I won't get answers and certainly not this early on, just thought some positive stories might stop my negative thoughts and speaking to others who have been in similar situations might help. I did request counselling after both miscarriages but by the time they contacted me I felt i had already started to deal with it myself. It's such a lonely place to be as nobody knows what to say, I think that's why I'm not going to tell anyone until I know all is well this time.

I found counselling helpful, a bit. I did about 8 sessions about 5 months after the second miscarriage. It helped me realise I wasn't just upset about not having a baby after ttc for a year at that point, but that I also was grieving. It didn't take away the grief, but recognising it helped me.

I told the people I wanted to support me very early with this pregnancy (after our first scan at 6+3). Not that I'd found them particularly helpful after the previous experiences...

No one really knows what your version of grief looks like or feels, so it's isolating. If you don't want to tell people (even the father?), it's your choice, but support can be really helpful.

Be kind to yourself.

Oh and something like 1-3% of women will have three miscarriages in a row without known cause. So your risk of it happening again is quite low (not that statistics are comforting, so this might not help you - sorry 😐 f it doesn't!!!!).

Just a handhold from me. I don’t have any children yet, but have had three miscarriages in a row (between 6-12 weeks with no known cause) and now 9ish weeks pregnant. We’ve told close friends but not parents as we don’t want to say anything until it’s looking more like it’s definitely (or hopefully) happening. It’s a really anxious time, so totally understand how you feel. Just remember every pregnancy is different and the odds of it happening again are so low as pp says.

I had 2 miscarriages - first at 16 weeks, second at 11 weeks. I then went on to have my 2 children. It was a really anxious time and I was having counselling which really helped. Wishing you all the best with this pregnancy, take each day at a time x

Thank you both, it definitely helps talking to others. I will take each day as it comes. I have 2 girls aged 11 and 13, I definitely won't be telling them yet. Having to be brave for them was very hard and I couldn't stand to see them upset again. Twistering, I'm so sorry for your losses and really do wish you all the luck in the world this time. Trying not to stress yourself is easier said than done especially when a miscarriage has happened more than once. The calculator says I'm about 5wks+1day, so too early to even see heartbeat, may not even see foetal pole yet, so just going to try and relax until I can start getting checked out. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement ladies x