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JJR17 · 08/12/2018 19:01

Please no grief, just looking for some friendly advice. My boyfriend and I are expecting our first baby any day now. We're both young so are still living with our parents. We've planned for my boyfriend to sort of move in for the first two weeks after the baby is born, and we planned on moving into our own place some point early ish next year, obviously we wanted to just take it as it comes at that point and do it when we feel ready. My problem is, I've just started worrying about the space in between. I don't think I'll feel ready to move out too soon but I also don't want to leave it ages and get too comfortable. I don't want to be travelling every other day to my boyfriend's house to see him and his family with a very young baby for months on end... sorry for the long post!:(x

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AssassinatedBeauty · 08/12/2018 19:44

Why would you have to travel every other day?

HettySunshine · 08/12/2018 19:49

Would your boyfriend and his family not come to you?

Could your boyfriend look at getting a little flat near by for 6 months or so in the short term or would that prove too expensive?

SoyDora · 08/12/2018 19:52

Why would you be the one doing the travelling?

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JJR17 · 08/12/2018 19:55

His family will likely come to me to visit but we want the baby to spend time at his house as well. He wouldn't be able to afford a flat on his own, and he's already worried about moving out.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 08/12/2018 19:57

I appreciate he will want to spend time with his child, but why do you have to do all the travelling with a tiny baby? Surely he needs to come to you to begin with?

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JJR17 · 08/12/2018 20:12

Yes he's coming to stay with us for the first 2 weeks but after that we both agreed on sort of switching between houses until we find our own place. It's only just dawned on me how difficult that will be.

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ICJump · 08/12/2018 20:16

That does sound really hard work. It maybe that you need to rethink the plan. Can you decide when the visit his house starts after the baby arrives.

AssassinatedBeauty · 08/12/2018 20:18

That definitely needs a re-think. If you have a c section or birth injuries then it could be impossible. And even if there are no issues you will be tired and recovering.

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JJR17 · 08/12/2018 20:25

That's exactly what I thought... no idea why I didn't think of this earlier! Suppose we will have to just wait until he's born to sort this out. Thank you so much for being so kind and helpful!!xx

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