Just found out I'm pregnant but my friend has been really weird about it

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My best friend is one of the only people I've told so far since I want to wait until my 12 week scan and so far she's been so rude about the whole situation.
She's due a baby late February/early March and we have a group chat with us and four other girls.
On the chat she's been talking all about her little one while over text she's been total nasty to me telling me I can't be as it has to be a false positive and saying well you've got what you what now.
Also shaming me because I'm not going cold turkey on caffeine and I personally don't see a problem with having a small glass of fizz during the festive period since it's so early.
I really don't want the start of my child's life to be made into a competition or ruined because of her and I'm now scared to tell anyone else in case they're horrible about it too.
What do I do?

She’s hardly a friend then is she?

Step away from her. No need for a big fall out but stop sharing anything with her. Focus on other friends and family that are nice and supportive.
Congratulations and good luck with your pregnancy....

Ah, she sounds like one of those people who thinks she's the only person who has ever been pregnant and is upset that someone else has had the audacity to 'steal her thunder'.

Ignore her. Real friends will be happy and excited for you. Congratulations!

Maybe give her a little while to realise her attitude has been horrible and to start being more excited for you. If she doesn't then time to find new friends!

Perfect time to eliminate negative people in your life ready for babys arrival...

I don’t get this at all. I would be bloody delighted if one of my friends was pregnant with me!

Sorry OP, what a horrible reaction to get from a friend.

She sounds like a bitch! I’d ditch her to be honest.

She's not your friend. I'd just step away from her and move on.

I really don't understand these women that want to be the sole centre of attention and can't stand other people being pregnant. I've had a couple of friends announce being pregnant just after me and I am excited about it. It's great to share experiences and I don't feel as alone. I don't really think she is much of a friend to you. I would also be inclined to take a step back, anyone that makes you feel bad for having something good happen in you're life isn't worth your time. Try not to let her get to you OP x

She sounds like she thinks you've stolen her thunder- very immature.

Re the small glass of fizz- you say it won't hurt as you're so early. In fact the first trimester is when it's most important to avoid alcohol so you may want to read up on that before you decide to drink.

Tell her to f**k off. I’ve been having a coffee every day since being pregnant (overdue now) and I’ve had comments at work about how pregnant women “can’t drink coffee”. I’ve found it rude and infuriating since NHS guideline stipulate that low doses of caffeine are fine (and there isn’t much consistent data on how high caffeine intake affects the baby anyhow). Besides which, it is horrible to know that people are suddenly watching you from the corner of their eye, making judgements.

As pp have said, she’s oddly jealous because she wants the be the ONE person having a baby in the friendship group. If she really riles you up in future then I’d suggest to her that you’ve found her constant stream of pregnancy stories a bit tiring. Yes, pregnancy is special when you’re the one going through it but to everyone else you’re just another person having a baby, like millions of people do every year. This is why I hate gender reveal parties and extravagant baby showers- sorry rant over.

Oh and go for that glass of fizz at Christmas, one isn’t going to hurt.

She's certainly not a decent friend she should be as happy for you as she is for herself! I screamed my house down with excitement a few weeks back when one of my best friends phoned me to tell me she was expecting my partner nearly had a heart attack! Lol don't worry about the way she's reacting just distance yourself and see if she comes round a bit and apologise and if she doesn't then your for sure better of without someone like that as your "best friend" congratulations by the way! Do not let this dim your excitement x

Sounds like no friend to me. Listen, during my pregnancy I lost so many friends AND family. Well, with the family they are still there but they are gone to me - given their behaviour during my pregnancy. No matter what they will ever do in the future, they will never ever make it right ever again. They hurt me and literally almost asked my husband to divorce me. I think our marriage has been injured since then and I personally am projecting all the negativity on the relationship until now. Some hurt can simply not be undone. So morale of the story here is, people show their true colours when you are pregnant (for some reason), they hurt you and abandon you if they can. She may unfortunately not be the last - keep your guard up and don't trust anyone with your emotions. Don't share your feelings with those who don't deserve it and she clearly isn't to be trusted with your true feelings and trust. I didn't care about the 12 weeks rule and shared the news with everyone at 8 weeks. Don't be scared to share the news, it will show you pretty early who is to trust and who isn't. I lost my parents in law, my "best" friend, another friend and had a few others treat me like shit at work. In the end, it is better this way than putting your trust and faith in fake people... congratulations and be strong!