Have I got a reason to be upset, advice please

[gemmaaaxxx]

Since 7-8 weeks into my pregnancy, I have suffered morning sickness, badly. Been put on tablets,lost 2 stone, I'm 12 weeks now, obviously I'm hormonal... my partners mum, who I happen to live with, made a nasty comment towards me.

"I hope to god you don't have anymore kids after this"
This is my first.

"All you've done is moan you feel sick"

I feel very upset and distraught by this.

My partner was present. And didn't say a word to her, he just nodded his head.

I feel as if I'm doing something wrong, like I can't help if I'm being sick suffering with morning sickness.

What do you ladies think?

I have suffered with sickness throughout (currently 28+4).

How you didn't punch her in the face I don't know. When people made comments to me regarding my 'mood levels/complaints/annoying moaning' I often responded with, oh I'm sorry, this must be really hard for you.

Tbh, some people just don't think though. Keep strong x

Thank you, im glad you understand how I'm feeling, I really didn't think her out of everyone would say that, I want to confront her that it's upset me how would I do it? Any ideas xx

What a cow...after loosing 2 stone from sickness you have the right to complain as much as you like!

I hope you’re starting to feel better x

Hmmm. Your partner nodded his head!? WTF. That is not OK - did you talk to him about it at all afterwards? Does he know how you feel about what was said? That would upset me a lot more than anything my MIL could say to be honest.

That's awful, I'd be really upset too! Personally I would speak to your partner first - why didn't he defend you? And I'd get him to speak to his mother and tell him how unacceptable and unhelpful those comments are to you.

Well done for not yelling at her. I’m certain she didn’t mean it so try not to be too upset. When the baby arrives, she’ll be first in the queue to hold her grandchild.
Perhaps she has forgotten how miserable that early stage is. Living together isn’t always easy, I think you need to vent at your partner so he knows not to agree with her in future.

Omg every right to be upset! I was sick for the first 18 weeks. If my husband had said that, he'd probably be murdered right now. Luckily he was brilliant with me but yeah, I'm sure some colleagues said/felt that but didn't dare say it to me. Totally in the wrong there!

Some people have no idea how awful it feels, she sounds selfish but if I were you I'd be really cross with your DP! He should be looking after you and looking out for you. I think some people find it hard to have sympathy when they've not experienced the same thing but no excuse, she should learn to bite her tongue.

Keep going OP, it is horrible but at some point you will feel better, hopefully before baby arrives.

Of course you’ve got a reason to be upset. What a bitch! And your partner nodded?

Assholes.

There's a lot more to this isn't there Gemma? Why are you still living there, when your partner regularly has a go at you and has said he'll never leave his mum?

I spoke to my partner, and hell broke lose, I said his date she say that, and he said she was doing it for a Laugh, I don't find it a laugh, and he apologised on behalf of her, she's getting the silent treatment until she says an apology, I went to sleep very upset, and woke up seeing upset and sick, best not moan about it tho!

How dare*

Feeling*

This takes me fondly back to H telling me "My Mum says she's never known anyone handle pregnancy as badly as you!" Special times....

You are going to need a thick skin in pregnancy as well as when you are a new Mum, as everyone has an opinion... 'silent treatment' and moaning to DP is going to be ineffective I'm afraid and you will just feel more wound up. You either suck it up and be the grown up, or "joke" back - "its your miserable face that's making me feel sick Carol - what's the matter can't she take a joke?!"