Pregnant and unsure what to do.

[Natz110]

Long story short, I am around 4 weeks pregnant (still very early) my boyfriend is devestated, he’s only 23 and seems to think his life is over which hurts me. My initial feeling was I want this baby, but I can’t help but feel guilty that he doesn’t want it. Through anger he told me if I done this we couldn’t be together cause he couldn’t trust me, but I keep thinking if I decide not to go through with it we could end anyway and if I do go through with it he will hate me and take nothing to do with the baby. On the other hand it is so early and I worry I choose to have the baby and he leaves then god forbid something happens ie miscarriage and then I’m left with nothing. (I know I’m probably over thinking but I’m just so confused and scared) has anyone been in this situation before and there partner was so so against it ? Thanks

& also is it normal to have period like cramps and bloated belly all day? My boobs were agony first week or so and there starting to not hurt anymore so I’m worried it’s early signs of a miscarriage

I’ve not been in your situation before but from the sounds of it, this relationship isn’t going to last long long term anyway. So whatever you do, don’t do it just to “keep” him.

It’s an unfortunate situation but I wish you all the best. Don’t be forced into doing anything you aren’t comfortable with.

Oh OP I haven't got any advice but didn't want to read and go without saying anything. Just sending all my love

Why does your boyfriend feel this way? Did you tell him you had contraception when you didn't?

The relationship sounds like it isn't going to last. Being a single parent will be hard.

Sorry I haven’t been in your position, but if I was I’d do two things.

First make any decisions based solely on your life and you. It doesn’t sound like your DP will be around much longer either way to be honest.

Secondly I’d think very long and very hard about how it’s going to be potentially being tied to this man by a child for the next 18+ years. Potentially not being able to move away if he decides he wants you to stay. Sharing custody of your child on birthdays, Christmas and other special occasions. This goes so much further than a baby, this is a child you will have forever and therefore have this man in your life forever. That’s before you get to being a single parent, trying to work and find another relationship.

I’m not saying have a termination but I often think so many people make decisions based on just having a baby when it’s so much more.

I found myself in a similar situation I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks. The father told me he didn’t want the baby and when I confirmed I was going ahead with the pregnancy he told me he wanted nothing to do with it and neither does his family.

I’m now 37 weeks pregnant and haven’t heard from him since then and honestly as hard as it can be being pregnant and on your own it’s also very rewarding and you make all the decisions regarding your unborn baby.

I would strongly recommend making any decision based on your own feelings only as you will only live to regret it otherwise.

Good luck!

Do what your instincts tell you. The relationship doesn't sound like its going to last anyway if that is his reaction. He could've worn a condom!

He doesn't sound very nice at all.
If you want to have your baby then do. I'm 20 and just had a baby with my boyfriend who's 26. We were only together for 4 months when I fell pregnant.
I said I was having my son and if he wanted to be part of his life then he could be but I made the decision to have my baby and would have even if he left.
All the best xx