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How long to wait after miscarriage?

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Ambs81 · 06/12/2018 12:15

I had a mc last month, I'm obviously keen to start trying again - but wondering how long I should wait?

I have come on my period today, around 3 weeks since mc.

I wanted to wait 2 cycles, but now thinking maybe I should just start this month?

The medical advice to wait just seems to be to ensure you gets your dates right?

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BirthdayKake · 06/12/2018 15:09

You could try now if you wanted.

I had a miscarriage in October and am now 8 weeks pregnant (no period in between).

Good luck xx

Jowak1 · 06/12/2018 15:14

I lost a baby in December 2009 and started trying straight away after my first period and got pregnant straight away. She is beautiful 8 year old girl. X

mortifiedmama · 06/12/2018 15:28

We tried straight after and I got pregnant.

Michelle0507 · 06/12/2018 15:45

I waited one period but had two before I got pregnant again but it actually turned out to be a chemical.

eastcoastmum2014 · 06/12/2018 17:00

Hi lovely, I had a miscarriage in Feb 2016 with my second, it took about 6 weeks for my body to readjust and for me to have a period and then I fell straight away - my DS will be 2 in January, I'm also expecting DC3 in January as well with no MC inbetween. If you feel ready to start trying, have a period and then go for it! Goodluck sending lovexxx

Jackshouse · 06/12/2018 17:02

As sound as you have a negative test. Midwives like you to wait until after you have had one period to make it easier for dating and so you know it is a new pregnancy oppose to retained products.

shecamefromgreece · 06/12/2018 17:05

I got pregnant after two of my miscarriages straight away no period.
Both were healthy sticky pregnancies

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Ambs81 · 06/12/2018 17:06

Thanks everyone, that makes me feel better.

Straight after miscarriage I read someone to wait 6 months and was devastated, then read a bit more and spoke to hospital - they said to wait 2 cycles but this was mainly down to dating the pregnancy.

I think i will wait and see what happens this cycle, and hope for the best.

I feel like our life is on hold and don't want to delay trying for months, as i don't think it will make any difference to chances of a healthy pregnancy

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Alfiedoo87 · 06/12/2018 17:07

We were really lucky too. We had a miscarriage and then got pregnant the next month. However if you’re not ready wait a while. A miscarriage takes a big toll on you and your partner so make sure you’re both in the right space to try again.

Good luck!!

payperview · 06/12/2018 17:10

I was pregnant 16 days after my miscarriage. LO is 3 now.

Iswallowtoothpaste · 09/12/2018 14:51

No you definitely don’t have to wait. I’ve heard 4 months banded about but I think there’s a lot of focus on being emotionally ready to try again as pregnancy after a M/C can be really tough (first trimester especially)

I had a MMC in June. Had an ERPC at the end of June and had fallen pregnant again by the beginning of September (which was a huge shock as it had taken me 2.5 years to fall with the last pregnancy) Anyway, currently 14+5 weeks and everything seems to be going well.

mummamoo37 · 09/12/2018 16:49

I started bleeding yday morning early and having awful cramping and lower back pain so went along to local hospital, they were lovely and gave me a side room and then the consultant came and did her exam and went on to tell me it looks like a failing pregnancy. I'm very early 4wks 3 days, she's booked me in for a scan at the EPU Monday to have a look and I assume to confirm the loss, I'm feeling so lost and heartbroken having never experienced a miscarriage before, I've had 2 successful pregnancies previous so just assumed everything would go fine this time! We had been trying for a while so felt great to get the positive result. The only thing getting me through at the moment are my girls and their hugs. I'm hoping we can try again soon after once I get the all clear, but I've read so many different things about the best time to wait etc but then a lot of people say the doctors only say wait till after 2 periods so it's easier for dating the pregnancy, does anyone have any advice on how long to wait etc much love everyone xx

OutPinked · 09/12/2018 17:43

They advise you wait for one period purely so you can date the new pregnancy but I know people who have fallen pregnant before getting that period and all was fine. Since you have had the period, even better! You can try from now.

TerriB84 · 09/12/2018 18:11

I had a MC in October. Did a pregnancy test a week after the MC started to make sure my hCG levels had returned to zero and then started trying straight away. I fell pregnant again without a period in between and am currently 6weeks. Midwives used the first day of MC bleeding as LMP to date pregnancy which will be corrected as necessary after the 12 week scan. I was only 4 weeks when I MC so it didn’t take long for my body to settle down but it will probably take a bit longer for a later MC as hCG levels will be higher and take longer to return to normal.

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Ambs81 · 09/12/2018 18:27

@mummamoo37
So sorry to hear about your mc, for the first few days I was totally at rock bottom, but once I'd got through the physical side of things and my hormones settled I started to feel better. Its been nearly 4 weeks now and I feel ok, and ready to try again.

I also have a LO (nearly 4!) who was a surprise, so thought my last pregnancy would be just as straightforward.

Now I've had a period, we've decided to try and see what happens this month.

As other comments have said, the recommendation to wait seems to be to allow the pregnancy to be dated, which i guess is even more important after a miscarriage - but there is no medical risk. Apparently you are very fertile following a miscarriage.

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mummamoo37 · 09/12/2018 19:09

Thank you for your reply ive just been all over the place these last two days, and the only things keeping me going are my girls and the hope we can try again. I'm dreading the hospital tomo as I really can't face anyone let alone have to have a scan just to be told the awful news yet again but us mummas always find the strength to battle on through everything, I've also read about being really fertile and others have fallen pregnant without having a period inbetween, but like you suggested I'm just going to see how I feel mentally as well as physically before we go for it. Tha is again for reaching out xx

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Ambs81 · 09/12/2018 20:03

@mummamoo
The first few days are really tough, i found the return trip to hospital very hard - my scan was totally clear but pregnancy test was still positive so they made me wait a round for a while. I thought they'd make me come back to hospital again for a third time, but luckily they asked me to just do it at home a few days later.
I just kept setting little milestones - saying that with each one i'd feel a bit better, and i did.
my friend has had three mc's (but also has 3 dc), she told me once her period would come she'd feel a lot better - that certainly was the case for me, and I hope for you too.

I promise you in just one week you will feel a lot better.

As you say, mums are tough and it still amazes me what we go through for babies!

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