Gender reveal parties

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Do you think they should write down the sex of the baby at an NHS ultrasound? Some places will only tell you and not write it on a piece of paper or card for s gender reveal party because it’s a medical test! Should you have to go privately.

Some hospitals do charge for that ‘informally’ provided you bring in your own envelope - in my hospital it’s usually the cost of two photos. They write it down on the back of the ultrasound pic and put that into a card

@wannabemummy123 I completely agree with your post. What a miserable and judgemental thread this is. It also makes it sound like bad news should be expected at the anatomy scan, even though it's actually rather rare to get devastating news at the scan- of course we should all be prepared and respect the scan for what it is. However this post has clearly freaked some pregnant ladies out big time into thinking that everyone gets bad news at this scan.

Regarding the gender reveal and the baby showers, live and let live and stop being so judgemental and miserable. I'm having neither by the way, but I wouldn't judge someone who is.

Regarding the NHS ultrasound doc writing down and F or an M on a piece of paper for you- is that really so much to ask ? After all the NI contributions we pay, we can't even ask for this tiny thing ? This is a joke. It takes about 3 seconds at the end of the scan to do this. I certainly wouldn't ask at the beginning, but if all went well- why not quickly ask then to do it at the end. Again, I didn't do this and had a private scan at 16 weeks 'just for fun' but still- what's the big deal. It takes less than 3 seconds.

I most likely will have a gender reveal party / baby shower. Or maybe even bloody both. Because a new life is a reason to frickin celebrate

Surely the time to celebrate is once the baby is safely here. Not when things, sadly, can still go so very wrong.

Baby showers 😳
Gender reveal parties 😳
All very grabby and no I think the NHS don't need to write it down verbal is enough if you want to know!
What next birth parties where the midwife slips between partygoers with her water and towels 🤣

No the NHS don't have to write it down at all. It's nice if they do for people who request it but of course they don't HAVE to!

But all this talk about "grabby" ... remember that's how you feel. Not everybody feels the same. And insulting people isn't exactly nice is it?

After all the NI contributions we pay, we can't even ask for this tiny thing ?

@mummytobe2020

That’s rather a piss poor argument considering the NHS maternity care one receives, not to mention NHS care provided to your offspring.

@MadamDeMorency I respectfully disagree actually and I don't care for your use of language, not that you'll care.

I've been paying a lot of NI contributions over the last however many years that I've been working and will continue working - seeing as I'm a top earner. I am entitled to good care as I've been paying into the system. That's how the system works. I don't really see how my argument is 'piss poor'. But whatever floats your boat. The NHS is not 'free' like some people seem to think- I've been paying at least 600 -800 GBP a month in contributions and now it's time to get the care I deserve. My husband and my family etc have also been paying into it- my parents their whole lives.

@MadamDeMorency just to add another point on that, in other countries you pay about the same in insurance contributions and get much better care back than you do on the NHS- and guess what, people not in employment/ students/ children also get 'free' healthcare. The difference is that the standard of care is far superior, starting for example with the fact that when you're pregnant you get a dedicated doctor- which we do not get. We get called into the hospital to meet a different person for each scan and for each appointment with a ( different ) midwife. You're also told to go to your GP a lot during pregnancy. At my surgery I've never seen the same person twice. It's always a different GP. So the care is all over the place and sometimes they can't find your records and match them up etc. In other countries you get one doctor who is your main care contact during pregnancy for any kind of issue, you don't need to keep running from one place to the next. It's a joke- and in these countries, working people contribute to the system ( in their case insurance ) just like we do- but no one thinks it's 'free' or that they somehow need to be massively grateful or proud of their system. The NHS is the biggest line of BS ( excuse my language ) that we've been fed. That's not to say I don't appreciate it and the doctors and nurses who work in it etc. But I'm not going to go around begging and thinking that it's so outrageous to ask them to put either an F or an M on a piece of paper.

@mummytobe2020 but we are not talking about care, this is about fucking parties.

I work for the NHS and can’t believe the number of people who pull the ‘but I contribute to the system’ one for all kinds of nonsense. Usually following by being told to fuck off for doing my job.

A pregnant woman isn’t ill, therefore does not need a dedicated doctor by default.

Anyway, if you don’t like my language, I suggest you join the fucking huns.

@MadamDeMorency lol your language is fine. Whatever, I swear all the time anyway. I just didn't like it in the previous post. I can understand how it would be annoying to have people point out their contributions to you when you're just doing your job. I would never actually do that and very much appreciate the care I'm given. I'm always very nice to nurses and doctors and anyone who works for the NHS. I think having a dedicated person, doctor or midwife follow you through your pregnancy would be really nice. I just feel a bit lost with it all sometimes and I have lots of family abroad, so I talk to them frequently about how things work elsewhere and there is a lot more support, that's all.