Unplanned Pregnancy in Another Country- NEED ADVICE

[BABINEWT87]

Hi people,
I recently turned 21, and found out I was pregnant. I am currently studying at university. However, I am studying for this one year in a different country. I am meant to go back to my home university in July 2019 to do my final year, which coincidentally is around the same time the baby is due. The father is from the country I am in for a year and is the first guy I've been with and I felt sad at the thought I may have to leave him, but now I'm pregnant it's added a whole new factor to everything. He is older than me and became happy knowing there was a baby, and is overwhelmingly sad now I'm thinking I can't have it.

I feel like my whole life is at a crossroads because if I have this baby I will have to stay in this country away from everyone I know, without a job (which seems difficult to get because of the language gap), without an income and without having prepared. I mean I packed minimal stuff for my 1 year abroad so I don't even have all my stuff here. Also, he likes the city life and I would prefer to be a bit more in a green gardeny area, but this is maybe less important. We haven't known each other that long, but I thought we'd have time to really spend together to make a decision in 7 months of what our futures would be like. Now I feel like I have to pick my whole future now.

Any thoughts?

You've talked a lot about the relationship. Maybe theropod doesn't hinge on the relationship with this man (lots of single mothers out there!).

Do you want this baby now? Would you be allowed to stay in that country (do you need a visa and would you qualify?). Is this what you want from your life?

Motherhood not maybe theropod (interesting autocorrect though!!!)

I feel like if I was in my own country I would have fewer problems about having a baby because I am aware how everything can work there (e.g. job and finishing university etc). I could stay in the country, but the issue I have is that I would then have to stay there because I want the baby to have a consistent and happy life. Also, I would never take the baby away from their father. On the surface, I can picture having a baby but when I think about the workings of it, I am stressed and less confident. I am so inconsistent and feel like I wouldn't give the baby what I want to give it and, don't even feel attached to it anymore. The father says everything will work out, but I think I like more of a realistic "Here is how it will work" approach, but maybe he is right and I am overthinking?

If I were you I’d come home and take some time out of university to make your decision. Do you have family to support and help you?

I haven't told my family, I have only told one of my friends who I knew would be unjudgemental. I wanted to make a decision before telling anyone. I'm also worried because the longer I leave my decision the more likely it is because the decision will make itself because it'll be too late to not have it. I was also brought up being told to not have kids until I am ready, so I don't know if I am stuck on that train of thought or if I will miss out on things. Like I can't just go somewhere or do something. Do you guys think having a baby prevents you from doing alot of things?