14+5 Worrier..

[JustMe18]

Hi all,

Your resident worrier is back..

So, I'm 14+5 and I feel nothing in my tummy.. I was feeling burning and what I can describe as period type pain, but, now there's nothing.. My boobs are still bigger and nipples are sensitive but everything else has gone

Also, I can suck My stomach right in and I have no bump

Am I being a twat!?

Not a twat, just a worrier.

I'm 13+3 and I'm exactly the same. Nothing in my tummy, boobs are sore but okay, nothing like they was, and I can suck my tummy right in and so far haven't gained a pound. I was already chunky to begin with, 12-14, so I think the extra chub on my tummy is disguising it.

Don't worry. Everything will be okay x

@TokenGinger

I've just text my midwife because my anxiety is through the roof. I haven't helped myself, because, I've read about ladies who have lost their babies in the second trimester. I have had the downs/Edwards/Patau results and they are low risk so I'm guessing that the chromosomal abnormalities aren't relevant here?

I'm driving myself mad!!

@JustMe18 I'm 19 weeks today and still flat as anything but starting to feel flutters now 😊 x

Hi, at 14 weeks your uterus is still fairly small and hasn’t expanded much at all.
So it’s not uncommon to not have a bump at all at this stage, everyone carries differently. At this stage I just looked fatter than usual but I was overweight pre pregnancy anyway.
I had never suffered with anxiety in my life but I found I was very anxious until around 20weeks but after that it did pass.
I’m now 35+3 and since 20 weeks I have felt so much better and have started to enjoy the pregnancy.
Maybe as a reassurance you could look into a private scan? Might be worthwhile just to give you some peace of mind rather than waiting 6 more weeks for your 20w scan.

@harrypotterfan1604 @blh23

Thank you for your input..

I text my MW and explained my predicament and she replied with;

Bless you. I'm sorry but there's nothing I can do. If you do get any pain or bleeding then go to see your GP. I will be able to listen to the heartbeat at 16wks. X

Just not much reassurance there!

It’s a bit rubbish but there really isn’t anything she can do she’s right :(
Have a look into a private scan, most places can get you in within a few days to a week and they’re around £50-£80 I think depending on where you go so worthwhile to give you some reassurance.
I promise you it gets better, not so long after your 20w scan you’ll be feeling baby move and that helps massively with the anxiety.

With my first baby I didn't have a noticeable bump til 7 months!
I'm on my third now and have a bump at 12 weeks..
every bump and every pregnancy is different.. don't google stuff!!

A lot of people don't feel pregnant at this kind of gestation. First trimester symptoms have eased off as placenta is now doing the work, but it's too early to feel baby move for most people so it's a weird kind of limbo. If you've had no pain or bleeding, then it's incredibly likely that everything is just fine.

@harrypotterfan1604 @Bigonesmallone3

I don't think I have any reason to worry.. I have no bleeding and no cramping in fact I can't feel anything..

Please be blunt and honest; am I worried for nothing?

You probably are worrying for nothing I’m afraid :( however that being said there’s no harm in seeking some reassurance.
I assume you’ve had a 12w scan? How did that go?
Is there something else you can focus on? Decorating the nursery? Having a look at the things you want to buy like a pram, crib, cute outfits? I didn’t buy much before 20 weeks but I had a good idea of what I wanted because I filled my time with googling those things. It’s the only thing google is good for, please don’t google anything else about the pregnancy just the nice baby items you might want to buy.

Honestly more than likely yes, u won't feel anything at 14 weeks.. is this ur first baby?

@harrypotterfan1604 @Bigonesmallone3

This is my first baby so I don't know what to expect

I have an appointment for a scan, tonight, but I'm not sure if I'm wasting my money? My husband will think I'm nuts.

I had my 12 week scan which was fine! Saw the HB and everything x

If it puts ur mind at ease ur not wasting ur money.. after this scan u can relax and enjoy it..

The problem with reassurance scans is that if you're an anxious person, you might find the reassurance doesn't really last much longer than the scan and maybe a day or two after.

If it gives you reassurance then it’s really not wasting your money. Honestly you are not the only person to to feel like this.
This is also my first baby and even now at almost 36 weeks I’m winging it, I have no idea what on Earth im doing how I’m supposed to feel or what’s normal but I figure it’ll all work itself out.

Have you talked to your DH about how your feeling? He probably won’t get it I know mine didn’t when I was a big ball of worry but I was glad I had told him.
Do you have any pregnant friends? Or mum friends? Don’t feel silly talking to them about how you feel chances are they’ll have felt similar and not wanted to say.

Go for your scan. It's not a waste of money if it puts your mind at rest and helps you to enjoy this part of your pregnancy x

My sister in law gave me a Doppler.. I forgot I had it, so..

I just used it and picked up a HB of 133bpm..

Think I'm safe to stop worrying?

@JustMe18 exactly the same as you I am a massive worrier due to a previous MMC. No feelings in my belly, sickness has gone unless I take my vitamins at a certain time of day, boobs aren’t as sore as they were and slight periody pains. Just have hope and think positive that’s all I can advise. I am sure everything is perfect and cooking away nicely :) good luck and keep us updated with your progress 😘 x

If I were you I would go for the scan - if your anxiety is bad then it might help to reassure you. However like pp have said you might find that it helps for a few days and then comes back with a vengeance... I say this as someone who has also been very anxious throughout, I'm now 32 weeks and feel baby move all the time but if I haven't felt her for half an hour or so then I start to panic! So the anxiety doesn't ever go away I think :-(

Although the doppler has given you reassurance today, you have been very lucky to be able to find a heartbeat at 14 weeks and the midwives won't do it until at least 16 weeks purely because it is so hit and miss as baby is so small at this stage. If you keep trying to listen in every day over the next week or two then you will probably have a time where you won't be able to find the heart beat because baby has moved or you can't get a clear signal. If you are anything like me then at this point you will have a massive panic and your anxiety will go through the roof, and the docs/midwives will probably not be able to a) see you straight away or b) send you for an extra scan. So my advice would be - step away from the doppler. I would actually get rid of it, because I think it would drive me mad as I wouldn't be able to resist the temptation to keep checking. Midwives/docs also don't recommend using a home doppler as most people haven't been trained to use them properly anyway. Sorry if it's not what you were hoping to hear but I hope this helps!

@SuperVeggie Hey.. Just hearing the heartbeat has done enough to calm me down. I'm booking my gender scan for 15/12 so I have less than 2 weeks to wait to see baby again..

Hi I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a Doppler , just don’t over use it and don’t use it when you can feel movements . I’ve found my baby’s heartbeat from 12 weeks I’m 14 wks now , I listen a few times a week I think it’s been brilliant in reliving my anxiety , my midwife offered to check the heartbeat at 14 weeks but I don’t need her too now. It’s just a weird stage my symptoms have gone too apart from tiredness so just try an chill abit there’s lots of things to look forward too in the 2nd tri x

Also I find it so easy to find the HB. I taught myself how to use it by YouTube videos and listening to what baby’s heartbeats suppose to sound like x

@sh13 Thank you.. I think soon as I can feel baby I won't feel so uptight.