Pregnant again - feeling pretty low

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Background is that we talked about having another child for a while, were all in favour and then realised that what we enjoyed about parenthood we already had. We were happy as we were and decided to leave it that way. I have just found out that I am pregnant. This will be no.4. It's a game changer for us in terms of finances, car etc. We both work and I just feel massively overwhelmed with anxiety that we have put ourselves in a really stupid position. Anyone else felt like this and things worked out ok. I am struggling to see the positive right now. Please don't utterly flame me. Feeling pretty fragile.

No flaming here. If you don't want to have another baby, you don't have to. I know you'll be feeling really anxious but take your time to think. Four children is do-able, but like you say you are happy now, would another baby make you unhappy?

I personally do not have this experience but 2 friends had unexpected surprises both baby no.4 both in 40s. One had just changed their car and the next day had to return it. About 8 year age gap from dc3 to baby and the babies of both are sharing a room with their siblings. Both reduced hours at work or do compressed hours now. However I know very much the joy that no.4 has brought to their families and things did work out even though it didn't feel like it at the time.

Give yourself time to process especially when it's such a shock and early days yet.