Finding sex too weird

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I'm 21 weeks today, and since finding out I was pregnant me and OH have had sex once, when I was about 10 weeks. At the beginning stages I was knackered and had morning sickness so that was the reason then and I kind of put it it of my mind thinking everything would get back to normal. As times gone on and I've got further along my libido has come back full swing and I fancy my partner more than ever, HOWEVER, I find the thought of actually having sex just too weird. I am really not a prude by any means, and am a an open minded person, but I just cannot get my head over the fact that our baby is between us! She wriggles all the time now and I'm quite big, so that's a factor, but other people seem to be able to get on with it quite happily.

I miss sex, and I miss being intimate with my partner, and it's starting to make me feel very frustrated and sad. Is it just me? Did anyone feel this way and get over it? Do I just need to get back into the swing of things?? Help!

Me too. Well, my dh is the one who finds it weird. I'm 26 weeks and haven't had sex in nearly 7 months (ivf pregnancy). It's making me feel even less attractive, but obviously I don't want to coerce/ guilt him into being intimate!!! On top of that my sex drive is on overdrive!!!

It's driving me nuts and starting to make me feel a bit emotional... maybe it's intimacy that's lacking, not sex per say for me... hmm??

but I just cannot get my head over the fact that our baby is between us!

But your baby has absolutely no idea what is going on and isn’t affected in any way, so I don’t get why it’s a problem?
I’m 36 weeks with our third and have had sex throughout the three pregnancies, although it is a bit trickier now! With DD1 we had sex a couple of hours before I went into labour, and will be trying that method of inducing labour this time too .
I’ve always had a high libido during pregnancy.

If it helps, my baby is a wriggler but I’ve never once felt him during sex.

You could always do other stuff if you aren’t comfortable with penetrative sex?

Me too. I feel up for it but can't bring myself to do it. Baby wiggles like mad when I orgasm which makes me feel sick. So I'm just going for the no sex.

@steph to be honest, I've not even tried sex to know if she would wriggle during or not. I supposed I should just give it a go really!

I found the idea of having sex while my partner was pregnant very weird. I really wasn't comfortable with my c**k being that close to the baby. What if baby felt it somehow? What if having sex damaged girlfriend or baby? In my defense (and before the man haters start with the name calling) this wasn't a stupidity/selfish/immaturity issue, I was told by Midwife that obviously baby wouldn't feel anything, but once I'd thought it, it was just really weird. This is totally my view, not in anyway saying its wrong or anything to have sex while pregnant, I just thought it was too weird!

I'm finding it weird, but it's not the idea of the baby being there.

Sorry if this is tmi but...
A couple of times I've had to stop him when we've had sex because it feels like he's got a big spoon I'm my stomach ascend is giving it a good stir. It just feels too bizarre! Gotta say, it's kind of put me off trying again. 😳

I really wasn't comfortable with my ck being that close to the baby. What if baby felt it somehow?

you must be very well endowed!

Stop with the "man haters" comments for goodness sake, Newdadofgirl.

Sex didn't bother me, towards then and I wanted it more than he was willing..

My partner finds it odd and I'm nearly 12 weeks now so just getting my drive back but by the time I have a proper bump he won't want to...

I didn't have sex through my entire pregnancy. I wouldn't have minded the first few weeks but I felt so god awful it was the last thing on my mind.

Once I had a bump it just freaked me out. Unreasonably so, but it just did.

No partner in first pregnancy and during my second and third i went off sex. Too tired felt horrible etc. Went back to normal as soon as id given birth though.

@ChaosMoon 😂😂😂 that's horrendous.

@GreenMeerkat same here - I've gone from feeling dreadful to it just being weird because of my bump.

My partner isn't at all weirded out (apparently) and isn't put off at all by the same things as me.

The best sex I’ve had is when I’ve been pregnant

I’ve been the same each time round and I’ve been pregnant twice....it made me feel less attractive and I felt down but DH helped. Congratulations on being pregnant!

I'm sorry op not that this helps much but this reminds me of my first pregnancy, I was DTD me heavily pregnant sat on top of do and my DD was a wriggler! Well my huge belly was squashed against do and my DD wriggled and the next thing my do was in histerics laughing he said it felt like a spider crawling really fast up his stomach, I don't find pregnancy sex wierd but yanbu it's how you feel

AHH auto correct! Dp not do !

The best sex I’ve had is when I’ve been pregnant. This!! Gets a bit awkward in the last few weeks but would have hated to have gone without- there’s a desert afterwards so we made the most of it

The thing that frustrates me as well is that we'd only had perfunctory ttc sex for about two years before our ivf... ttc got stale after the first six months. So I haven't had a really good shag in like three years. That makes me want to cry!!!

Ok, I feel inspired to try harder at this. @SunnyintheSun that's a good point I didn't think about - I really don't want to turn around and realise it's been a year since I've had sex with OH.

@physicskate noooo!! How far along are you now?

6 months today.

Yes, I’m making the most of these last few weeks of pregnancy sex before exhaustion/sore nipples/potential stitches etc puts a stop to it for a while.

Ohhh this makes me so sad.
Me and my DH haven’t had sex since finding out I was pregnant. I’m 36 weeks.
At first neither of us wanted too because of a previous miscarriage and I was experiencing spotting.
Then when we got to the safer stage, I had more spotting on a couple of occasions so scared us again.
And then my libido was uncontrollable and I wanted too so badly but I had a significant bleed at 21 weeks. So now my partner won’t touch me at all. He’s too scared. And to be honest I was too but once I got to about 30 weeks and felt I was safe again I really wanted to give it a go.
But now I’ve been told I have cervical erosion (after a couple more recent light spotting episodes) and have been told I can’t have Sex 😢
I was hoping to use it to get baby moving too 😂
I’ll practically be the Virgin Mary when I give birth near Christmas x