Best way to announce sex

[blueberry71]

It's my mums birthday on Sunday and I want to surprise her with the sex of the baby. Does anyone have any good ideas?

I understand a lot of people see it as silly and unimportant but just as you all feel that way, others see it as a very important moment. Just because you have differing views, please don't try to belittle others.

I am personally one of these baby shower/gender reveal people and I loved creating specials moments to remember in an otherwise horrendous pregnancy. It's really nice to have something lovely to look back on as I really struggled during those nine months.
Grandparents definitely care about this stuff so go nuts.

Here are some ideas that I think could be sweet:

• sign the card from grandson/granddaughter
• put pink/blue confetti in the card
• make a cupcake with pink/blue frosting on
• give her her present and then an envelope with a scan picture in and on the back, write "it's a boy!"

Congratulations!!! Xxx

Another thought - I'm sure your mum will be interested, OP, but it does rather shift the focus from her on her birthday back onto you. If you do it on a separate date, then you get two opportunities for cake!

This ^

blueberry congratulations! Ignore the bitchy comments on here. I was always taught that 99.9% of negativity is down to pure jealousy...

Anyway, I am a little jealous as I don't have any family so won't really have the opportunity to do this! I would definitely go for the cake or balloon pop idea.

I think I'm just going to tell her tomorrow (which isn't her birthday party) as I'm dropping my dc with her for the morning. Thank you for all the comments that were sweet.

I think the birthday idea was better - it’s an extra surprise for her, and it doesn’t make it all about you at all!

My baby is due on my mums 60th birthday, if I’m in labour should I refrain from pushing to make sure I don’t make her birthday all about me? (Even though she’ll be driving up to babysit the dc whilst I’m in hospital)

@blueberry71 My mum is absolutely infatuated with my pregnancy. She calls every day asking how baby is. If I told her the gender on her birthday, she'd be absolutely thrilled. I thought it was a lovely idea and still think you should do it. Maybe some cupcakes in blue. I'm sorry you've had a hard time on here. Completely undeserved xx

I had DC1 on ex MIL's birthday. Except I didn't - baby didn't arrive until 5 past midnight. She accused me of deliberately "holding on". Yes, 26 hours of labour just to spite her.

The wee plaque suggestion at the top is super sweet. Ignore the joy suckers- whatever you asked, they would have been mean.

For goodness sake it’s sex not gender.

And I think a card or a gift that gives her a clue is a lovely idea. Bit not anything that needs to be cleaned up (confetti etc.).

And I’m a miserable bugger.

Don't let the miserable comments on here put you off doing something nice. Mumsnet is weird sometimes, people get mean for no reason.

My mum would have been so so happy if I'd done something like this (and I would also care when DS becomes a parent)

I think it's a lovely idea. I like the idea of a cake with blue or pink sponge

Olly sorry but that's hilarious 😂 silly woman. I bet you miss having her as a current MIL...

I'm very superstitious when it comes to unborn babies. I would just tell her, a picture etc could end up a very sad momento.

I like the idea of signing the card from you both plus future grandson :) that's sweet and simple

Don't like that a lot of the ideas mentioned have to be revealed with pink or blue, just starts all the colour stereotyping before they're even here! sorry rant over

We lost our first baby at 23 weeks so I know about not tempting fate. Lots of lovely ideas though. I know my mum will be really excited to know. Nice birthday surprise for her.

Congratulations, she will be over the moon.

Is it a nice birthday surprise or will you be hijacking all the attention away from her though?

I'm telling her tomorrow which is her birthday but her actual birthday party is on Sunday so I won't be taking attention away from her.

Tomorrow would be better than at the party. Well, have fun tomorrow then!

It doesn't matter which day you tell her. She'll be thrilled.

So many bitches on here! As if it's stealing limelight from the mum 🙄

God how odd! I am presuming that she will be delighted to know the sex of the baby regardless of the day. Why are you trying to turn such a simple fact into some sort of present giving scenario?
As a previous poster said why all the fannying about? Just tell them then deal with birthday celebrations as usual. I would be mortified hiding such special news until someone's birthday

We did crackers with coloured confetti inside

I thought this was the pregnancy board, not the sanctimonious arsehole board

Thank you for all the nice comments. Looking forward to telling her tomorrow. I have asked for this post to be deleted as it seems to have attracted a lot of trolls. Thank you for all of the sweet replies.