How to tell my parents that they are going to be grandparents

[Lizzy17]

Hi there
I'm 12 weeks pregnant and wondering how to break the news to my parents. On paper everything seems perfect; my parents love my husband, I'm 29 and healthy, we are financially secure etc.
I know my mom will be over the moon but that my dad will be a bit disappointed.
I think I'm struggling with this because it all still feels very new to me. So any ideas (cute, funny or heart warming) will be greatly appreciated!
Thanks :-)

Why on earth will your dad be disappointed?

I’m sorry your dad will be disappointed and I hope you don’t allow his feelings to ruin your excitement or enjoyment of your preganchy.

How about a Christmas card from the baby?

Unfortunately we live in an unsafe country with an unknown financial future. He thinks it is not wise to bring a child into a situation like this...
I do understand his point but that cannot stop me from living my life.

When our time comes we are hoping to send my parents one of those little count down plaques with so many weeks until baby is due. Or something like that anyway.

@spottingTheZebras, thanks for the idea. I love it!

We gave our parents a Christmas card signed from us 'and baby Surname' and made them open it in front of us. It took my Dad ages to click! (This was 2 years ago now)

You say, 'I'm pregnant'. No need for drama.

If your dad has concerns about your lifestyle is it wise to go down the cutesy twee route? Might that just strengthen his belief that you're not being responsible?

I don't mean you have to be apologetic, by the way. You're an adult who has made a choice and it might be good to start as you mean to go on with this pregnancy and be assertive and factual about it.

I agree that a matter of fact way is best and not silly twee things- as your dad might think that you’re in a kind of denial of the reality of your child being born in a place he feels is unsafe.

Scan picture perhaps?

Scan pic inside a grandad card

FWIW my dad advised us to wait until after Brexit before trying for a baby because we face uncertain times (he's not wrong). That didn't happen because we refuse to put our lives on hold for potentially 2+ years. I'm now 13 weeks pregnant with twins.

We told them in person (my parents live in France so we don't ee them often) when I was about 7 weeks, by giving them a cute neutral babygro in a gift box. Mum said "are you trying to tell us something?" and we both said yes. Mum was a bit shsocked at first but dad was and still is over the moon. They've since taken the news tht it's twins extremely well (shame the same can't be said for me - I'm still in shock!) and dad told me he can't wait to have two grandchildren.

You'll be fine. Just find a way to tell them that feels right for you and go for it. At the end of the day, their reaction won't change things. I'm sure they'll be over the moon for you. Good luck and congratulations!

We gave them a nice card with a scan photo and the due date written inside. I’m not generally one for fuss but it made a nice memento that my Mum could keep.

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate all the ideas and advise.
Congratulations and good luck Squiff70!

@Lizzy17 I gave my mum a Christmas card from the baby, that had happy Christmas nanny on the front. She was very happy! I know she'll keep the card. Like she did my bday cards when I was small

Because of timing we were able to give my FIL a card that said Happy Fathers Day Grandad! Maybe you could do the same for Christmas?

Do your parents live with you in the 'unsafe' country ? Is it your family home or have you moved to an unsafe country ?