5 1/2 months pregnant, scared boyfriends cheating ?

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My boyfriend did this thing that he did kinda similar the day before thanksgiving (so what five days ago?))

He went to hang with his friends from home who live an hour from where we live now. We’re all mid 20s but his friends tend to date girls 18-20 (which can make me uncomfortable bc I know how girls that age are). I worry that sometimes he may be arond them/ I find his friends a bad influence; thy all live at home date teenagers and do nothing with their life. Anyway,

He left house around 1pm. He had to go to bank at home to get more checks and send check to landlord. He said he went to this bar/night place with two guy friends and then was buzzed and fell asleep at his moms after. He came home at 130am.

He didn’t respond to my texts so I was just like “you’re really sketchy” and when he called me before he drove back I was asking him like who were you hanging with all day, what did you do, and why didn’t you let me know if you were going to sleep at your moms and not come home? He just got mad and said I’m being annoying and we should break up if I keep being annoying

He did a similar thing five days ago and I www so stressed (he came home even later at 4am the day before thanksgiving)

Idk what to do. If I had somewhere to go, I’d leave. He’s paying all our bills and I don’t have a job right now. We just moved to a new location and I don’t know anyone here or have money or a job. Most of the time I’m by myself in our house cleaning and being lonely, it sucks. have an interview tomorrow though he seems like he doesn’t want me to work as he keeps saying “it’s probably too late to get a job now”. I’m due April 7 and have no complications as of now, I feel I should start saving my own money in case I need to leave, but even with money saved id not be able to watch a newborn and work. I feel really trapped and I think he takes advantage of the fact that I am. And there really is no where I can go, no matter what he does:(

I don’t know what to do. Should I believe? I can be really Niave and I just find it odd he would a) go to his moms to sleep and b) not tell me that)l?

I wish I had my own money I leave . :(

I don't know what to say other than: why on earth are you having a child with a man you don't trust? He sounds like a bit of a bro.

His behaviour is not acceptable for a father-to-be. We get a bit anxious or crazy during pregnancy anyway so there is no need for him to be playing games with you. Lay down the law and tell him what you need and why you need it. Get some independence back.

And don't have more children with him. It sounds likely to end in tears (for you).

Hi OP,

I feel for you

Firstly it sounds like he’s definately up to no good, he should be able to explain who he was with & why he didn’t come home without getting angry. That’s very much tell tale signs he’s annoyed because you know he’s full of shit - his problem not yours. He shouldn’t be treating you like this, have you opened up to him directly and explained this behaviour of his isn’t acceptable? What’s he going to be like when baby is here?

Me and my DP are mid/late 20s and don’t get me wrong DP enjoys a good drink with his friends (we both do tbf but I’m pregnant too) he always lets me know if he’s staying out longer. A very brief text but it puts my mind at ease that he’s ok.

Do you not get invited out with his friends? Especially if their GFs are there? (Also a little weird if I’m honest - your pregnant you are still capable of socialising especially if you feel lonely)

Secondly, Is their no possibility to move back with your parents? You can then build yourself up & have your own income. It would be much more settled and stable environment for you & baby surely?

Nobody should ever make you feel lonely, trapped or adding to your stress levels especially at this time in your life. This should be the moment he ‘steps up’ my DP as mentioned with having a drink was abit of a jack the lad, we’ve been together 7 and half years & always wanted DC. Although he could be a pain in the arse at times he’s stepped up since we found out and instead of stressing me out he really goes out of his way to make me feel comfortable and relaxed - this is exactly what your partner should be doing

It’s a difficult situation but always remember your worth & being alone isn’t as scary as you think