Surprise pregnancy 22 years old (depo shot failure)

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Hi everyone!!
Didn’t think I would ever be in this position as I had the depo shot that doctors told me would last 12 weeks and only ended up lasting 8 weeks somehow. I’m pregnant, found out last night after I got 4 positives back and using the last one with my SOs pee to make sure it wasn’t a faulty batch. He isn’t pregnant, of course.
See, I also always thought I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant due to the multitudes of problems I have with my period eg. Not ovulating (so I thought)... so somehow this is also very scary but I am pleased at the same time.
I thought I would have a clear answer of what to do but I don’t... me and my SO have a lovely relationship very happy, both have good jobs.. but we are only 22(me)/23(him) and we rent a very very expensive one bedroom that just isn’t big enough. I wouldn’t even know how to raise this baby. I think he wants me to get rid of it but he also said that he will have a conversation with me about all the options if that’s what I want to do. He was so calm and kind to me.
I just want some advice... I don’t know where my head is.
Thanks xxxx

Wow. Firstly congratulations. Secondly, it sounds like you are at least a bit happy about the baby, if you really want to keep him or her, do it. Don't worry about raising a baby, it just happens. There are so many parenting styles. I see people making opposite choices regularly and all raising wonderful children. In terms of the living accommodation, babies don't actually need much room or stuff. I am breastfeeding and my baby sleeps in the bed with me. You can do it safely and you can have either a next to me style crib or just safety rails on the bed (I have the rails). Apart from that you need some clothes and nappies, a changing mat (no need for a changing table - I stick the mat on the floor as I have heard of far too many babies falling off changing tables) and a few small toys. Mine is now 10 months old and mainly plays with small balls, books, lamaze toys, a little cube that lights up and plays tunes when you turn cogs or post shapes through holes, a tambourine, the living room door and rug, her socks, any paper she can get her hands on and basically anything that isn't a baby toy. We go to a few different groups and she plays with other babies and toys there. In terms of finance, it will work itself out. You may need to move to a cheaper area for a few years and still be in a small property but you will get there. I hope that everything works out the way you want.

Equally, you are under no obligation to become a parent. This was a contraception failure, not a plan, and you have every right to consider every option and now just get sucked in by the oohs and awwws of babies. Parenting is for life so it's not a decision to be taken lightly.