12 week scan after MMC

[Burtiebojangles]

5 months ago we found out we’d had a MMC at our 12 week scan. Lost baby around 8 weeks.

Today is my 12 week scan for our new pregnancy and I’m terrified.

I keep telling myself this one is different, although my symptoms persisted last time, they eased off around the time we lost the baby, I’d just not realised and probably thought it was normal. My boobs stopped hurting quite early and deflated by 12 weeks and my sickness eased to the point I wasn’t being sick daily but it was still there.

This pregnancy has wiped me out. I’ve been sick multiple times, every single day since 6 weeks, my boobs are massive and sore and I’ve been zapped of any energy. But then I know that symptoms don’t really mean a fair deal in pregnancy.

I feel quite angry that I’ve been robbed of the innocence of pregnancy, that I can’t enjoy it. On a day I should be excited to see my baby for the first time, I’m telling myself there won’t be one and preparing myself for the worst.

I think I’m just looking for a hand hold, can anyone else relate? Positive stories are very welcome 🙂

Hi I have had 3mcs, 2 before my DD aged 10 and DS aged 9 then I had mmc resulting in an erpc in April this year I'm now 18+3 wks pg , totally understand as I was so nervous rather than excited tbh , sending a virtual hand hold and hope all goes well today x

I totally get it. I had two miscarriages and lost them before my 12 week scan. You’re right, you have lost the innocency of pregnancy. No matter how smoothly it goes you will always have it in the back of your head.

I cried when I saw my lovely DD on the scan. Good luck! A big virtual hand hold for you!

Good luck to you!! I have mine in the morning and even though I heard the heartbeat on my Doppler today I am scared sh*tless I have had two missed Mc let us know how yours goes, these few months have been a nightmare just stress and worry I know how you feel xx

@Burtie I completely empathise, your story sounds quite similar to ours. We too had a MMC at 10+3 where we discovered no HB and baby had stopped growing a week earlier. My symptoms definitely eased last time but didn’t grind to a complete halt.

This time they’ve been much stronger and everything was going well until 2 days before my 12 week scan where I had a bleed accompanied by backache and abdominal cramps. I was sure it was going to happen again but I was wrong, baby was fine and bouncing around. I have a tilted uterus so have to go back next Tuesday as couldn’t measure baby’s neck properly.

It’s awful when you’ve been robbed of the innocenct enjoyment of early pregnancy, the worry and anxiety completely overshadows the wonder and amazement of what’s going on inside your body. I hope your scan goes well today and that you enjoy seeing your little one wriggling away - hopefully after today you’ll be able to relax and enjoy a little bit more!

I feel quite angry that I’ve been robbed of the innocence of pregnancy, that I can’t enjoy it. On a day I should be excited to see my baby for the first time, I’m telling myself there won’t be one and preparing myself for the worst

You’ve summed up pregnancy after miscarriage perfectly. My scan is on Weds. I had a horrendous MMC which ended up in my being blue lighted to hospital for ERP - the baby had died at 6 weeks and I bled at 11. It was awful.

I’ve had one successful pregnancy and delivery since.

I’m now pg with #3.

A wise woman on these boards once said to me I need to ask myself “why shouldnt I have a successful pregnancy?” not why should I.

That stuck with me and got me through the 40w with DS and is getting me through every day at the moment.

Be annoyed. Miss the baby you could have had. But all anyone can ever ever do is dare to think positively in your situation.

Why shouldn’t your pregnancy work out?

Good luck and

@Paulhollywood exactly - great advice.

Just reminded me of some wise words someone once once told me. They said that this pregnancy is a whole new sperm and a whole new egg. It’s a clean slate, things are different this time.

Wishing you luck for your scan. I am in the exact same place. Had a miscarriage earlier this year and am now 10+2, 12 week scan is on the 13th Dec. I'm terrified. My symptoms have eased but are still there a bit. I'm trying to think positive but am so scared that we will get there and find out something has happened.

@gimmeadoughnut123 I'm 10+2 today and my NHS scan is on 13th December too!
Also I was saying only yesterday my symptoms have eased off which should be considered a good thing but you do worry! We're all in the same boat :) x

Thank you, everyone. Your kind words are really appreciated. I’m setting off to the hospital soon, squeaky bum time but your positivity has really helped.

I’ll speak to you on the other side 🤞🏼

Good luck OP. My first pg was a mmc and I was devastated.
I got pg again. I was excited and terrified.
He’s 15 now. I also have a 2nd too.
Wishing you the very best.

Good luck.

I had a MMC and the pregnancy afterwards, I couldn't bring myself to be excited. I told the sonographer as soon as I got into the scan room that I had previously had a MMC and to please let me know if she saw a heartbeat.

It was the worst two minutes of my life as she adjusted the screen and concentrated on getting a picture, that baby is now a very active little toddler.

Good luck x

Good luck @burtiebojangles positive thoughts x

I hope nobody minds me asking but....has anyone experienced very very light bleeding at all in the first trimester? Like so light that you have to really look at your tissue after you have been to the toilet? I've has the tiniest bit for the last few days. Wondering if it could be because the placenta is taking over from the yolk sac.
Sorry to hijack OP, in my head this is all part of the same worry of mine so thought it would be better to ask here than make a new thread.
@Curlywurly3 oh how funny! Are you due 22/6 as well? Glad to hear it's not only my symptoms that are subsiding.

@Burtiebojangles good luck and please update us!

@gimmeadoughnut123 yes EDD 22/6! I found out on 10th October! I do have a private scan booked for Thursday as we are planning on telling DP's 2 DC this weekend. 13th is a little too close to Christmas to tell them.
I also had a tiny bit of spotting, it was mostly brownish though which I think was caused by implantation bleeding, I think a little bit of spotting is normal. Lots going on in there!

@Curlywury3 mine has been over the last few days so it's got me a bit concerned. But no cramping or anything. I've called a midwife so just waiting for her. I found out on the 13th October so just a few days after, how funny :)

We have a baby!!! So surreal. Thank you so much everyone. I was a wreck waiting for the scan but you all put my mind at rest this morning.

We’re 11 weeks and 5 days and we’ve got an active little babe who wiggled away the whole time.

Lovely! Congratulation!Im in the same boat... mmc at 12+2 and found out at the scan days later last pregnancy... scan is on Wednesday... bricking it! Xxx

Oh I’m so pleased @burtiebojangles

@Burtiebojangles congratulations! This takes me back to my 12W scan- was totally petrified there would not be a heartbeat. I'm 36W now and so ready to meet my baby. Here's to a healthy pregnancy to you xxx

Ah great news @bertiebojangles! Congratulations! X

Thank you everyone! It feels like such a weight has been lifted.

@ithinkthatsenough sending you all the best wishes! Fingers crossed for good news for too!

That is truly fantastic news. I am so incredibly pleased for you. Brilliant.

@Burtie I’m so happy for you! Congratulations!