Struggling!

[TheSubtleKnifeAndFork]

I feel pathetic posting this, but I am really struggling with my second pregnancy.

I'm 31 weeks and have had pregnancy insomnia since the early days, I also had very bad sickness / nausea early on (not HG level thank god but pretty debilitating) and I'm still throwing up now, just not daily at least. The insomnia is the hardest bit, I am absolutely shattered. I go to bed at 9 most nights and still exhausted as my sleep is so, so broken! I feel like I am being a shit mum to my toddler, a shit wife (my husband is amazing), and I am often struggling to stay awake at work in the afternoons. I feel like a zombie.

I struggle to sleep in the day when the rare opportunity arises. I've been in bed since 3pm (husband insisted) and failed to fall asleep - husband has taken toddler out to an event. We were meant to go as a family but I couldn't face it and feel horrible about it.

I am also SO grumpy. I am putting this down to chronic lack to sleep (and some hormones thrown in), but that's no excuse. I have been snappy with my husband and my patience with my toddler is a lot thinner than I am happy with.

I feel very alone. My husband is lovely, and does so much to help, but he doesn't really understand how tired I am and I feel constantly guilty about how much he does. My mum didn't have any trouble sleeping in any of her pregnancies, therefore it's not a "thing" as far as she's concerned. I just want to curl up in a ball for the next nine weeks, but that's obviously not an option.

I feel scared about what it will be like when the baby is here too, as I am unlikely to have time / the ability to catch up on sleep.

I'm obviously thrilled to be pregnant and having another baby, and know I have had an "easy" pregnancy compared to some... but I feel very at sea right now.

Hi I am in the same boat I’m
Only 20 weeks but I’ve had terrible morning sickness, exhaustion & insomnia. I find my insomnia comes & goes but sometimes I’ll be up until 3-4Am when I’ve got work at 9. I really feel for you it’s horrible. It does make you grumpy & snappy all I can say is do what’s best for you if that means missing social occasions & getting some sleep then do that. I hope it eases somewhat for you

Thank you Lou! I'm so sorry that you're struggling too though. It's rubbish. I didn't have this insomnia first pregnancy so was really not expecting it!

All the best with your pregnancy. xxx

I am the same OP. I'm 31 weeks and sleeping terribly because I keep waking up with painful legs/hips. Docs don't really have much advice, from about 2am onwards I wake up every 15-30 mins as I need to change my position due to the pain. I know broken sleep will be normal once the baby arrives but it's hard being so tired when you're also PG! I'm really struggling at work and can't concentrate, keep making silly mistakes due to tiredness.

I'm not being sick thankfully but I am getting really bad heartburn which makes me feel sick and I hate the taste of Gaviscon :-( Not sure this helps you but wanted you to know you're not alone! x

@SuperVeggie - I'm sorry you are having rubbish sleep too. I've also started with hip pain recently too so I'm now flipping backwards and forwards like an angry, tired pancake all night long.

Re: heartburn I absolutely hate the liquid, it is utterly vile - but the double action tablets are just minty and much nicer. Might be worth a try if you are struggling with it! I'm lucky, I've only had heartburn a handful of times so far.

Oh the insomnia is so tough isn’t it?

Strangely I’ve actually found it worse when I go to bed too early! Was shattered so going to bed at about 9pm then would sleep for a few hours and be awake from around 2am. Not helpful when you have to be up at 6am for work! Now I don’t go up until 10 and read for a bit, and finding it much easier to sleep through