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Early pregnancy miscarriage

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emmab96 · 22/11/2018 13:00

Hey, this isn't really a question but I recently found out I was about 5/6 weeks pregnant it wasn't something I had planned for and took me completely by surprise at first I wasn't exactly sure what I wanted but after it had sunk in for a day or so I had decided I was going to keep it I started planning everything, how my life was going to change as having a baby is a massive life style change I had also told the father who it also took by surprise but he had said he supported any choice I made which had made me so much more at ease. I had been booked in for an early scan to confirm dates and I'd had some light spotting and cramps so I was in the room with the doctor and then those five words came out her mouth " I can't see a pregnancy " she had told me that I had a miscarriage and that both my ovaries were actually polycystic which was also news to me I had no idea. I don't exactly know how to feel at the moment I feel so lost like a part of me was stolen I know that 5/6 weeks is barley anything and it would've be the size of a grain of rice but it would've been my baby and I lost them. I feel so heartbroken even though it wasn't planned I still feel like I've been robbed I just don't feel like me anymore I don't feel whole. it's like I was given this gift and it was taken away from me and I know this probably sounds stupid but I just need somewhere to put my feelings anyone else had a similar experience? do you have any tips on trying to come to terms with it all I mean it was just so much to take in at once and I just don't know what to do or how to make it betterSad

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KaroB · 22/11/2018 21:11

I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I had a PUL miscarriage at 7 weeks and can sympathise with that feeling of emptiness, even though I only knew I was pregnant for about 2-3 weeks).
I took a few days off work and my husband was very kind and we had sone really quiet weekends relaxing at home & going for long walks which was nice). I told quite a lot of people (a few close friends & a few colleagues) and found that helped. I was also 'fortunate' as I was having some CBT at the time for anxiety (unrelated to the pregnancy) and my therapist was extremely supportive. We then booked a 'blowout' holiday after a month or so which gave me something to focus on. I found out in the holiday that I was pregnant again so my worries moved on to a new subject & I stopped dwelling on the mc in the same way. Sending love xx

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