third trimester. Have toddler. Feel wretched. Just having a pointless moan

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Ugh. Is this really supposed to be the best time in my life? People keep saying "lap it up it'll be gone before you know it" I assume referring to having small children, being relatively young...I don't know. All I think when I hear that is "SHIT. This is IT?". I know, I sound ungrateful. I'm not. I have a lovely husband, an adorable 3 year old and I'm 33 weeks pregnant.
BUT>>>
I'm exhausted physically and emotionally. I've had extreme "morning" sickness so spent first 5 months vomiting and sporadic vomiting/nausea after that. I'm so tired I can't move at all, can't entertain my little girl when my husband is at work all day, hate all the housework, out of breath if I even walk up the stairs to the loo (which is about 9000 times a day). I have insomnia and a sleepless 3 year old so any sleep I get is broken into pieces. I have SPD and my pelvis hurts. I have vulval varicose veins and hemorrhoids so bad I haven't been able to have sex with my husband for 4 months...even if I wanted to...which I don't because I'm bloody exhausted. I've got a double chin that just arrived a few weeks ago and my face is totally puffy.
I do not have what it takes to be a good wife, mother, friend, worker anything else at the moment. I can't be fun, upbeat, energetic, entertaining, sexy, intellectual, positive which lets face it is what people want me to be.
So I'm here having a moan.
It is spurred on by the fact that my husbands best friend (40) married a 23 year old recently. I felt like an old, jaded, enormous, nagging fishwife by comparison to her. She had bright eyes, enthusiasm for life and 23-year old perky boobs and they're all over each-other. Felt like there's no way my husband is not comparing his life to his friends life. Friends life = sex all day, fun and parties at night. My husbands life = work, pay bills, no sex, very little social life, listening to 37 year old wife complaining about her painful pelvis all day.
Thanks for listening!! :-(

I bet your husband wouldn't change his life for that of his friend. I am 34 weeks with my first, and I can't imagine how hard it must be with a toddler as well. You are doing an amazing job and you are on the home strait. Just imagine how lovely it'll be eventually, with a gorgeous family. That 23 year old will have her time and, by then, you'll have your body and your sanity back. Please don't be too hard on yourself.

I'm nearly 30 weeks and have a 2.5yo son. I hear you op. I work part time too and wish I could just pack work in! I haven't had sickness as bad as you and really do feel for you on that. I remember in the earlier days how hard it was to try do EVERYTHING, work, clean etc AND look after my son. I felt very guilty not playing with him more but I just did what I could with the energy I had.

My husband is also in the 'no sex' camp (we've done it very little since we found out) as I am just exhausted.

Just hang in there. I know it's tough but you're doing a fantastic job. I'm sure there's nowhere else your husband would rather be. (I am 31, huge now and haven't seen 'perky boobs' for quite some time!) xxx

I’m feeling sorry for myself and I don’t have a toddler! You’re doing an amazing job!!

I know everyone is different but for me having some nice baths, painting my nails etc make me feel marginally better (even though they are just silly and frivolous).

And re your partner’s young wife.... there will always be someone like that... how easy relationships are in the early days without any responsibility! But that changes for everyone and I’m sure your partner appreciates you, your little one and everything your body is going through. And wouldn’t change it for the world.

Try to stay positive xxxxxxx ❤️❤️