When can I get excited?!

[MamaIn2019]

Currently pregnant with my first, around 4+5 at the moment. I know it's so early, is it too early to sort of, consider it real?

DH keeps trying to talk about it, and chat about names, and I'm just petrified to let myself get excited because all you ever hear is about the danger zone and the risks and the first trimester and all this.

Did anyone let themselves get excited at this point? If not, when? I don't want to be this withdrawn about it the whole pregnancy because of my nerves as I am completely over the moon I just feel like I shouldn't be as it might jinx it.

Congratulations . I was excited at your stage, I know people say don't say anything until 3months but I couldn't keep it to myself and I'm not superstitious. You can't jinx it! What will be will be regardless of how you think.

Well done you! I hope your pregnancy is smooth and am sure you will have a lovely baby.

@Rachelover40 We've told a few family. I'm just so scared to let myself get excited! Thank you so much for the reassurance xxx

OH GO YOU congrats

If your a nervous person (like myself) that feeling may not go away I’m 28 weeks and still finding myself not wanting to get too excited , but some times I can’t help it ! Sometimes I feels like I’m walking about with a bomb strapped to my stomach ! But you can’t look at it like that the nerves can’t get the better of you because it will ruin the full journey , please don’t let it ! You do what feels right by you and not what anyone eles says i was told not to buy anything until well into my pregancy , I bought my pram at 5 weeks pregnant that’s all I have bought myself though just enjoy this new life growing inside you try not to worry too much ! Just think youl have your scan soon and my god that a magical day

Thank you @Babyredfern can't get a scan until 12 weeks so booked a private one at 7+4 so just trying to survive until then! Haha

Please get excited now. After a lot of miscarriages I didn’t enjoy a second of my pregnancy. It was such a waste.

Congratulations @MamaIn2019!

I get not telling people attract away - I kept it between us my mum and DSis at first, and even now I won't shout it from the roof tops until by anomaly scan next week.

But you can't jinx it. Worrying now won't help - it'll just make you miserable. So enjoy it now if you can. It won't change the outcome but you'll be happier.

I had an early miscarriage at 5 weeks and ended up talking to ppl about that so when I caught on I thought well why n it tell ppl because I talk about it of something happened again. I told whoever I liked and had my 12 week scan yesterday (turns out I'm 14 week) strong big baby in there get as excited as you like, it's your baby and your body. All id say (from experience) is if you do decide to tell ppl before 12 weeks, prepare for some negative comments e.g. ooh you really shouldn't be telling people before 12 weeks. I hope you haven't bought anything yet blah blah blah good luck and enjoy

Haven’t got any advice OP, I just wanted to say I totally get how you feel. I’m 5+3 based on LMP. 3 more weeks until I even see the midwife for the first time. Nearly two months until scan time. I really want to get excited but don’t feel I can yet. It doesn’t feel real yet because no one except me and DH know, and the wait until we can tell people feels absolutely interminable!

Sorry just meant to add - I’m actually finding the best thing I can do is try not to think about it and get on with life as normal (apart from needing to wee every 20 minutes). It makes the time go faster!

‘Tis better to have got excited and lost than never to have got excited at all.

IMO.

Congratulations! Get as excited as you like, the odds are on your side, the majority of pregnancies will result in a lovely baby.

I was quite young and fairly oblivious with my first, so didn't particularly worry so early on. Even then, I was 100% expecting at my first scan for them to say pff what drugs have you been taking, there is nothing there . I was even very shocked when they handed me an actual frigging baby at the end I spent the first night alone with her just staring and wondering wtf I had done.

Never too early to be excited especially with your first as everything is new. Just enjoy it.

That first 12 weeks goes so slowly, I remember it felt like forever. By the time I got to the scan I was convinced they’d find no heartbeat or tell me I was having an hysterical pregnancy... was not prepared to be told there were actually two heartbeats! Honestly I spent my whole pregnancy worrying about birth and then the first 12 months worrying about their health, then the next year worrying about development.., I’m not sure I let myself enjoy much. I’d recommend enjoying as much as you can!

Congratulations! DP and I were quietly excited until 12 weeks (which felt like forever) when we saw the heartbeat and then we told all our family and friends. I didn't want to tell anyone before then as I knew quite a few people who'd miscarried early on. I'm now 35 weeks and VERY excited.

After the 20 week anomaly scan is all clear and not properly until the baby is in your arms. Good luck and hope everything goes well

Getting excited won't change the outcome, so get as excited as you like.