Second hand smoke

[Mollymay0319]

Hello I was wondering if someone could calm my nerves a bit, I’m 25 weeks pregnant and I was a smoker before I stopped when I found out at 12 weeks however my partner still smokes in the flat, I tell him to open a window but even that seems like a chor for him todo I’m worried that
My babies health is at risk but I feel like my partner isn’t listening to me

Yes it isn't good for you or the baby. If he refuses to stop smoking around you now due to the risks then I would be concerned that he'll continue to smoke in the same room when the baby is born.

Can you have an honest conversation with him about it and explain the risks (you can get a leaflet from the doctors which sets out what damage it can do). If you can't have a sensible conversation with him over this what are you going to do when the baby is born?

He needs to go outside if he’s going to smoke. Opening a window isn’t getting rid of all the carbon monoxide you’ll be inhaling. Tell him the risks to the baby and how selfish he’s being. He’ll need to stop once baby is born anyway unless he wants a child with 60 year old lungs by the time they’re 3. Could you take him to a midwife appointment and get her to explain?

Definitely get a leaflet at least from midwife.

What will happen when the baby arrives? He will have to smoke outside, come in change his clothes, wash his hand and wait 20 minutes before he can interact with the baby. I would be explaining that to him.

Does he come to your appointments with you? If you're struggling to get through to him then maybe dragging in the support of a midwife would help?

My hospital has stop smoking clinics and posters up everywhere about second hand smoke etc so maybe he thinks you're "making it up/making mountains out of molehills" particularly if you weren't bothered about him smoking inside until recently, whereas if someone with medical clout told him the dangers then that would be different.

This is so dangerous, and it's second everything pp have said about smoking after the baby is born. Even 3rd hand smoke (when someone smoked earlier and you can no longer smell it but particles still cling to them) have been linked with SIDS, as well as various health conditions. He needs to step up and be a dad now, not put his addiction first.

He needs to get into the habit of not smoking in the house at all before the baby comes. If he doesn't stop then you'll have to decide who's more important.

He needs to have some more respect considering you are carrying his child, I also gave up smoking early on but my partner carried on and I insisted he then smoked outside so I was not around it (because lets face it giving up is hard enough anyway without someone rubbing it in your face) I caught him one night at 2am lighting a cigarette off my toaster and I kicked him out, he went and bought a vape (which I will let him smoke indoors) and he hasn't had a cigarette since.
So many dangers of second hand smoke especially once baby is born, if hes not willing to stop smoking indoors now what will stop him doing it once little one is here.

Good for you @iforgotwhatiwasgoingtosay I'm glad huge came to his senses!

DH has never smoked in the house we have 1 DC and 1 on the way and he stays away from me for half an hour after too on midwife's advice.

My midwife told me that even second hand smoke brings the risk of still birth up.