Scan dates help please. I'm desperate for some positive stories

[Frazzlerock]

Can someone please help me understand what is going on here?

According to Ovusense (temp tracking device) I ovulated on 6th Oct.

Tested 13 days later and got a strong positive, plus clear blue digi saying 1-2 weeks (3-4, right?)

According to LMP I should be 8 weeks + 3 days today.

Had a scan ten days ago (when I should have been 6+6 weeks) which showed baby measuring 3.6mm so my dates put back by 3 days to 6+3 and no heart beat could be detected. Fine. Baby too tiny and perhaps my egg took it's time to travel.

I have just been scanned again today for reassurance/dating and baby is smaller at 3.1mm but we have a heartbeat.
This sonographer said baby is no more than 6 weeks.

I really don't understand.
I understand that there can be errors in measurements but I should be nearer 8 weeks, not 6!

So that is an error of two whole weeks.

Basically I'd have got a really strong positive at only 13 days pregnant when most women haven't even ovulated by that point.

I've been advised to go to EPU in a week for another scan.

This is our rainbow baby, I cannot lose another 😢

Can anyone tell me this happened to them and it was just a lot of errors with it being before 12 weeks or something?

I need to cling to some hope that we'll meet this little ray of hope. I've waited 2.5 years for this 😢

My husband didn't want to ttc after our second miscarriage and the months that followed were awful. It was a very testing time for us. I threw myself into new interests and joined a new club and sort of 'found myself' again after mc. I'm now pregnant again and am so lucky to be finally on our way to having dc2. Post mc2 I did take some time to consider life with just ds and it started to look ok. We also did have some lovely times over those months, despite the heartache.

Thinking of you.

@Frazzlerock please don't apologise! That's not why I wrote to you at all, I replied a while ago when I saw we had the same dates but after I got the news I lost mine I didn't want to reply and give you more worries and I was so hoping your story would be different :(

It's such a horrible horrendous situation, but I wanted to let you know you are not alone, I know my husband is getting very close to calling it quits to and this terrifies me, so if you're ever feeling down and want to talk to someone who's going through the same thing, I'm here.... we could even be at the same hospital on Friday... it's not crawley hospital is it?

I'm so sorry

Thank you everyone 💜

@princessbala no I'll be at Tunbridge Wells.
But it's weird the likeness of our journeys. Likewise if you need to talk...
I just wish I could make this go away and bring our previous babies back xx

@toasterstrudle I was also trying to just get on with life and enjoy my older DSs more than I had been able to over those couple of years. I don't think I was ever going to be happy though. I was learning to make do with life as I knew it and just live as much as I could. I was still very very bitter though and couldn't understand why people kept telling me our losses "happened for a reason" when I felt so empty.

Then DP took me by surprise on my birthday night this year and we started TTC again. I was deliriously happy. Like I'd burst through a locked door into brightness.

4 months later I was pregnant and on cloud nine, albeit a very nervy cloud nine.

Selfishly, I am so scared for what lies in store for me. That darkness was something I never want anyone to experience.

So sorry my lovely, have been thinking of you today and hoping for a different outcome. Take care xx

I'm sorry you got such bad news OP

Don't give up though, unless that's what you both want. Get the results and see if there is anything that you can do that will boost your chances of having a successful pregnancy. But don't stop trying. I'm a bit older than you and had several friends who had problems conceiving and the vast majority - the ones who kept on trying anyway - ended up with at least one DC in the end. There are never any guarantees, of course, and it's shit staring at your 40th birthday, but many women do have babies after that age and some of them are first time DMs who've had a hard road to get there. Best of luck!

I'm so sorry you got bad news OP.

The exact same thing happened to me this summer. Saw a heartbeat but scan dated me over ten days behind, which I knew wasn't right. No one listened to me (not that there was anything they could have done) so I booked a rescan for a two weeks later which confirmed the loss. Its a shitty thing to go through, let alone more than once and I really do feel for you.

Please be kind to yourself and know you're not alone. Much love xxx

@Frazzlerock I am so so so sorry for your loss