Mixed emotions the day before my consultation for a termination.

[Emz2019]

I gave birth to a beautiful baby 4 months ago and also have a very poorly 1 year old. I found out a couple of weeks ago that I am pregnant, I’m around 7 weeks and me and my partner and decided a termination was best, I’m In and out of hospital with my 1 year old and he’s due back in this month for a long stay which is going to be very stressful leaving my new baby to be with my 1 year old, then leaving my 1 year old to be with my new baby. Tomorrow I have a consultation to terminate the pregnancy as it seams like it’s for the best. But I’m having major second thoughts and since booking that appointment have grew more and more attached to my pregnancy. I don’t know which way to turn but I know what is for the best deep down but I feel I can’t do it

If you are unsure do not do it. By all means talk to someone about your options but don't do something you may regret. You have plenty of time to think. Hope you and your baby are ok xx

I think that it's very natural to feel this way--it's not a decision anyone should ever take lightly. That said, I do think you are being a responsible parent to prioritise your existing children, particularly with a new baby and a very ill one year old. Sometimes, the right decision isn't the easiest one

So sorry you are going through this dilemma. I would give yourself a bit more time to think, (rather than make a decision too soon). Maybe cancel the appointment and give yourself a bit of thinking space. All the best 💐

If you can’t do it, you can’t do it. You are under a lot of stress. You haven’t said much about the situation with your one year old but is there a chance that the situation could improve around the time you were due?

I went for my consultation and I’m 7 weeks along. I’m due to go back next week to carry out the procedure. I feel so down about it and keep thinking if I even get as far as the day and haven’t cancelled I’ll turn up for my app and won’t be able to go ahead. But I know deep down another baby would make my life very very hard

When is your appointment? I had a termination worse thing I ever did I ended up on depression tablet due to a breakdown think about what you are doing, before you did it as you will retreat it

I am now nearly 9 weeks gone I had mine 2 half years ago I do understand we're you are coming from but I don't want you to regreat it hun like I did I'll support you with whatever you decide xxx