5 months pregnant and father of the child no longer wants to be with me

[Bumblebee7]

This is our first child, and he hasn't been doing a very good job of coping with the situation as it is. This morning he told me he doesn't want to be with me, I feel absolutely lost and have been struggling to hold it together. I grew up with separated parents and I hated it and I never wanted that for my son, and I can't bear the thought of having to arrange who gets to have our child and when.
I still love the father so much and this whole situation is breaking my heart.

I hope you're OK. My close friends partner left her during her first pregnancy and after a few months space (she eventually gave up trying and he realised what he was giving up) they reconciled and he has been an amazing partner and Dad ever since. I know this won't always be the outcome but I would just say to keep focused on you and baby and know that no matter what this will work itself out. If its not meant to be, it's a shame but you will one day find the right person and I guess it'll all make sense. If this really is the end then although it's not ideal, baby won't know any different. Not sure what else to say, I guess I'm coming from a practical angel but I know this is more a heart thing. Take care of you xxx

I'm so sorry @Bumblebee7. What were his reasons for not wanting to be with you ? Is it possible that he's just having a wobble and scared about becoming a dad , maybe he will come round ?

Hugs to you , you must be so confused. If it's any comfort to you, I split up with my daughters dad when she was only around 3 months old, I was only 23 and on my own with a newborn but i was absolutely fine and I wouldn't change it ! At the time I was gutted, not for me but for her not having parents living together. But she's so happy now (she's now 6!) . You just make it work 💕

@blondebrunette1 thank you so much for your message, it means a lot. I really would like to think that things will work out that way but I'm trying not to get my hopes up just to be let down again. You're right though and I'll try and focus on me and baby and just see where things go xxx

@ReginaPhalange89 our relationship was under some stress before we found out about the pregnancy, but seemed to be improving a lot until very recently, at least I thought it was. I thought maybe he was going to just say he needed some space but I didn't expect him to say he doesn't want to be with me at all. I hope he's just having a wobble.

I'm 23 now actually. How did you feel with your feelings toward the father? Because I'm struggling not to feel resentful right now even though I know it's not helpful. Thank you so much for your message though it's comforting to know it's doable 💖

So sorry for you! I was a single mum split from my partner just after I was 20 weeks pregnant.
It's hard being single and pregnant and you must feel so upset. Try and look after yourself and focus on your baby I know its hard.
I met someone fantastic when my daughter was really small and we have another on the way.
Things really do work out in the end xxx

Tbh I wasn't happy with our relationship while I was pregnant, we didn't plan the pregnancy and didn't live together at the time. I moved in when I was about 8 weeks pregnant and moved back ot when she was a couple of months old. I hated living with him . If I hadn't been pregnant I'd have moved out a lot sooner but I wanted to give it a try and thought maybe it was just my hormones. We were amicable when we split though, no nastiness . We've had difficulty since though with his new relationship getting involved and trying to have a say in when he sees his daughter. But we're past all that now. We don't speak, we have our routine that we stick to and it's jus a drop off and pick up with no chatting !

It's all new so of course you'll feel resentful. If he doesn't come around you will be absolutely fine, honestly. You can totally do it alone x