Feeling upset, stressed, hormonal and OVERWHELMED

[StressedOutandHormonal]

Hi All

Think I just need a hand hold

I’m 28w pregnant. Not sure if it’s hormones or a combination of things but so stressed out and struggling to cope.

I work in professional / stressful job. My employer is mostly really good but the guy I work immediately for / with can be difficult and we just got a new person who I’m training but that’s a full time job in itself.

We are trying to move house and some issues have come up as a result of that.

I’m tired as I’m not sleeping well.

I don’t do well with being “hormonal” anyway and tend to find it hard to focus on work etc and if I’m upset about something I find it hard to switch off.

Had a few big arguments with DH yesterday. First twice in the morning which I think was entirely down to him being a tw*t. Then in the evening which was a combination of us having a difference of opinion and it just escalating as we were on a long car journey. Plus I am hormonal and stressed and tired and he is stressed and tired.

We left things on good terms last night and went to bed so felt ok but this morning in the car to work we started discussing stuff again and argued and then I ended up feeling crap again.

I’m just struggling a bit today. I do feel a bit better after having exchanged a couple of texts with DH but just feel tired and emotional and stressed and worried about work, the house and not getting on well with DH.

It is probably just hormonal. Are you doing anything to destress and take time to connect with your baby, like PG yoga or Aquanatal?

Can DH sort any of the problems with the house move? Have you told DH just how stressed and upsetting you’re feeling?

I was doing yoga. I only did about three sessions but I enjoyed it and then my instructor went off to have her baby.

She’s starting classes up again this week though so I’m going to start going again on a Thursday hopefully

I was quite active before and now can’t do a lot due to pelvic pain (even a couple of hours housework or more than a mile walking and I’m in pain the next day) so I think this doesn’t help and exercise can be quite good at relieving stress

I think DH is realising the level of stress I’m feeling and has been a bit better I.e. this aft saying we can discuss later “if I’m feeling up to it” but most important thing is staying calm and healthy

Think I need an early night too!

Think I need an early night too!. I think you probably do

Thanks for your reply 🙂

Feeling a bit better this aft

StressedOutandHormonal Just to say I totally get this.

I have a similar work situation (the new person drives me a bit nuts sometimes) and some home stuff that isn't straightforward. It can all sometimes get on top of me at the moment, I'm roughly 7w. It's as though relatively small problems suddenly develop these long shadows.

I've tried all sorts of stuff - asking myself whether X will matter in 6mths, 1 year, 5 years; baths (lukewarm) with tonic and some music; meditation apps;watching mindless stuff on TV to switch off... nothing quite works but some of it works some of the time.

Someone on one of these threads put it well about choosing to send your baby happy hormones rather than stressy ones. That's basically been my aim since I read it. Hang in there!xx

Thanks StargazyDrifter

I think that’s good advice, although some times easier than others!

This past week I’ve been particularly emotional so hopefully I won’t be this way for another three months!

I could have written this post myself. I'm 28+3 today. Yesterday I had the most horrendous day. Had a glucose intolerance test so spent 3 hours at hosoital. Came home and had an argument with my mam who was taking care of my 15 month she wanted me to collect her straight away.
I was so tired I just wanted a rest 😩
This led to me being super stressed and arguing with my OH.
Cried myself to sleep.
Now I've woken with puffy eyes and still super stressed and emotional.
I can't face work today I just can't.
Going to have to phone in. Which upsets me further as my boss has been so great feel like I am letting him down.
Feel so emotional lately and cry all the time and feel like I can't face anything 😩

@Lauann Sounds like you are in a similar place to me! I’m v teary. Feel a bit like I can’t cope.

Yesterday I started writing my handover notes for mat leave at work as that’s where my head is at.

With work, house move and issues with DH, it’s a lot to take.

He’s taken on board I am stressed and need to be calm but we have unresolved issues regarding house move that we seem unable to agree on (although it seems we do agree but obviously both stressed and tired)

Not sleeping well either!

@StressedOutandHormonal
I feel like I can't cope too even with little things I burst in to tears.
I text my boss this morning to let him know I won't be coming in. Now I have been excluded from the Christmas meal 😩 he told me the team are not eating now and drinking instead. I had previously told him I wouldn't come if there was no food involved.
Things are going from bad to worse.

I am going to have a chat tomorrow with my midwife and explain my feelings. It feels more than just hormones.
I have no joy in anything I think I may be depressed.
Everything is super stressful for me. I can't imagine a house move on top of it. They do say having a house and baby are up there with the most stressful events in life it's no wonder you are feeling so emotional.

I'm also going to ask if I could be anaemic as I am so crushingly exhausted all the time x

Lauann That’s not fair of your boss. Are you bothered about going?

It could be hormones but speak to your MW definitely especially if you find not joy in anything but then we all have had days too.

I think I’m anaemic too but MW took bloods today so maybe they’ll do yours tomorrow. Think it’s the 28w appointment.

For me I think part of it is we are both stressed and DH can be a d*ck when he’s stressed so that with me being stressed too and hormonal things are escalating. The house move is stressful. Work is stressful. Arguing with DH is the worst thing and when I feel like I do now I feel like I can’t cope and don’t know what to do with myself but I’m trying to just focus on baby and stay calm and DH is going to have to work with me x