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Bleeding, lower back pain and mild cramps at 12 weeks

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 18/11/2018 17:08

Honestly feels like some sort of sick joke. I had a MMC back in June at 9+3 but discovered at 10+3. Had an ERPC and then fell pregnant again in September. Have kept so calm and composed managed to not go for a scan, having symptoms, no bleeding got to 12 weeks yesterday and have my scan coming up on Tuesday. Was stupid enough to get excited.

Started having some lower back pain and some period type cramps. - both mild but made me check just in case. I had a small lump of mucus with a dot of red blood initially and when I wiped again there was pink/red blood, not loads but certainly there. I’ve had nothing since but it’s exactly the same as with my MMC in June. Have tried to get a scan before Tuesday but can’t get one so just having to wait until then.

I think I know what the outcome is going to be but I’m so upset and angry at my body. It’s failed me yet again. This will be my third consequtive MC.

It’s honestly like some cruel prank the way it’s happeed.

I don’t know if anyone has any positive Stories regarding the pain and bleeding at this stage.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 18/11/2018 18:24

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 18/11/2018 18:24

Bump

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whiteonesugar · 18/11/2018 18:40

Hi. I recognise use you from the pregnancy after MC threads.

A small amount of bleeding isn’t always cause for panic but even though you know that it won’t stop you worrying. For what it’s worth I would feel the same as you.

A friend of mine has had bleeds through her pregnancy and I mean big Red bleeds. She’s almost 20 weeks and all is fine.

It isn’t always bad news but when you’ve had previous problems it’s hard to think of it as anything but negative.

Have you had any more bleeding? If it’s stopped that’s defo a good sign.

Keeping everything crossed and thinking of you xxx

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 18/11/2018 19:00

Thank you so much. It’s stopped yes it’s just the lower backache that’s niggling away however I’ve had that on and off throughout to be fair. Will just have to see what tomorrow brings x

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Scottay · 18/11/2018 19:41

I have no experience with this but just wanted to say good luck and I hope it all works out for you. Defs a good sign the bleeding has stopped but must be so hard waiting. Everything crossed for you x

Snowcloud92 · 18/11/2018 21:14

Hi,

I didn't want to read and run. I had bleeding almost exactly as you've described at 7+6 weeks and then again at 11+2 weeks. Only at 11 weeks it was much heavier (sorry for tmi but it was so heavy it soaked straight through my pants leggings/skirt). Both times stopped after a day, both were equally scary. I was so convinced the 2nd time that this was it I was shaking going into that scan but thankfully both times baby was ok and we are happy and so far healthy at 25 weeks. I really hope you have a positive result. I know nothing I. can say can help you not to worry about your little one but I hope reading my experience gives you a bit of hope that it can be ok.

mummaaksm · 18/11/2018 23:52

Hi OP ... just wanted to post to share a similar experience... I bled lightly for a couple of hours at both 7&12 weeks, and both times the baby was ok. After a MMC a year before! I also had horrific back ache from 7-11 weeks pregnant! Hang on in there, it's not always a bad sign and very common. Keeping my fingers crossed for you xxx

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 19/11/2018 05:48

Thank you all. I think it’s over for. No more bleeding but I’m still having the cramps and back pain. Mild but there constantly. Exactly like last time 😢 can’t believe this is happening again

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Squiff70 · 19/11/2018 05:57

@Iswallowtoothpaste - sorry I can't offer any advice but just wanted you to know I'm here for a hand hold if you need it. I really hope you and baby are okay Flowers

Ironytheoppositeofwrinkly · 19/11/2018 06:02

Iswallowtoothpaste I had 2 consecutive MMC too, and this pregnancy I had bleeding more times than I could count, always accompanied by absolutely horrendous back pain and fanny daggers, (sorry tmi). My baby, although not exactly 'fine' is still here and fighting and I'm almost 30 weeks pregnant.

For what it's worth too, the problems with my baby are very unlikely to have been caused by any bleeds, but they actually don't know what's wrong with her.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 19/11/2018 06:20

@Irony I think I remember reading about the rollercoaster you went through (and are still going through) nothing short of amazing!

This pain is constant, dull but always there. I’d be amazed if the baby was still ok, obviously that’s what I want but not what I’m expecting.

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JustMe18 · 19/11/2018 08:50

Iswallowtoothpaste - I had a bleed at 10+4 and went straight to A&E. They sent me to EPU who did a scan and all was fine.

This was an actual period like bleed, it only happened when I'd wiped and then stopped.

Since conception I have had period like cramps (mild) pretty much every day.

Go to your local APU or A&E today if you can.

Best of luck and lots of hugs xxxx

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 19/11/2018 09:15

@JustMe18 thank you for your positive story. I’d be completely lying if I said that thisnoregnancy had been pain free so far! I’ve had back pain, shoulder pain, neck pain, period pain, heartburn so I suppose in a way it’s almost normal for me to be feeling like this but the bleeding has definitely coincided with the back pain which is why I’m so worried.

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JustMe18 · 19/11/2018 09:19

Iswallowtoothpaste Are you going to go to your local A&E? I'd 100% just go and not mention your scan tomorrow in case they make you wait until then xxxx

NotAnotherUserName5 · 19/11/2018 09:37

Fingers crossed for you. I’ve also had a MMC, and it’s so awful.

I have also however, had a pregnancy that I literally flooded with gushing red blood. I had a scan convinced of the worst only to see my baby with a heartbeat in the screen.

My bleed was caused by a subchorionic hematoma. Baby was fine. I also bled with my first baby with cervical erosion. Baby was fine too.

There are many causes of bleeding in pregnancy, that aren’t miscarriage.

Fingers crossed for you x Flowers

ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName · 19/11/2018 09:43

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through OP but blood doesn’t necessarily mean game over. Had huge amounts of red blood throughout with my youngest, to the point that I couldn’t believe it could be okay, especially as I never had any with my first baby. But she was fine and is now a bouncing 2 year old. Keeping everything crossed for you.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 19/11/2018 09:56

Thank you all for these lovely stories. I have been to my A&E and they’ve sent me away saying they don’t have the facilities to scan. They’ve rung a different hospital to see if they can fit me in but they can’t either so I’m just having to wait and see. Pain has died down a bit, sill there but not as throbbing or constant however I have taken some paracetamol.

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NotAnotherUserName5 · 19/11/2018 11:44

Can you get a private scan? I did this, as I knew a lovely place in my town. She is a senior sonographer within the nhs too. Side business. Felt in knowledgeable hands.

Worth thinking about

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 19/11/2018 11:54

Have looked into it and can’t get one until 2 tomorrow afternoon by which time I’ll have had my 12 week scan anyway. So bloody terrified of tomorrow now.

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whiteonesugar · 19/11/2018 14:40

Still thinking of you. Just take each hour as it comes and do your best to be as relaxed as possible. xx

NotAnotherUserName5 · 20/11/2018 09:20

Good luck for today Flowers

bigglewig · 20/11/2018 10:15

Good luck. Hope it all goes ok.

DiaryofWimpyMum · 20/11/2018 10:22

Good luck for today. I had some blooding with my first DS and what felt like period pain, thankfully it was nothing to worry about.

JustMe18 · 20/11/2018 11:13

@Iswallowtoothpaste Best of luck today xxxx

jacquejacque · 20/11/2018 11:16

@Iswallowtoothpaste thinking of you today, please do let us know how you get on. Big hugs. X