Overweight/Obese Mums

[Babyno2mamabear]

Any mums out there riddled with guilt about the High BMI and all the associated risks? I beat myself up every day for not losing the weight I said I would before getting pregnant.

I constantly tell myself if anything happens, still birth, late miscarriage, GD, Pre-eclampsia then it'll be all my fault.

All I want is the best for this baby but I feel like I've already started them off in the wrong foot in life. 15 weeks pregnant and joined Slimming world 2 weeks ago, 8lb down so far and midwife happy for me to continue. I'm trying. But everything I read says it doesn't matter what you do now...It's what you were like when you conceived. Sigh....

For what it's worth, I don't know my weight I refuse to look, but I'm 5ft3, size 14 and bmi of 36, Obese.

Rant/Moan/Little Cry Over xx

You don't sound that huge tbh. I was over 15 stone before both my pregnancies. Had borderline GD in my first pregnancy which was controlled by diet. Had normal vaginal birth after being induced. Had no complications in 2nd pregnancy and had another normal birth without induction

Thanks lovely. I'm so glad all was ok for you in both your pregnancies 💖 just feeling an overwhelming sense of guilt for not doing more sooner. Although I'm not really really big, big enough for all the increased risks x

Prior to DD1 my BMI was 28, however I got pregnant for a second time when DD1 was only 5 months old.

My BMI was then 32 at 8 weeks (it's probably 33 now I'm 23 weeks). But to be honest, you don't sound that big. If I were you, I wouldn't stress about it and just enjoy your pregnancy. Xx

My bmi was way higher than yours for both my pregnancies. Obese first time and probably morbidly obese second time. 2 trouble free pregnancies and two healthy children. At the time i also felt guilt and have consequently lost an awful lot of weight. Look after yourself, eat healthily and follow all advice.

Hi everyone, just after some advice/reassurance... this is my first pregnancy and By my LMP I thought I was at least 10 weeks. I have felt increasingly anxious and couldn't wait for the 12 week scan to know if there was a heartbeat so went for a private scan. This dated the little blob (happily with a visible heartbeat) at 8+4. I do have longer than 28 day cycles (33-34 days usually) so I was expecting to maybe be about a week behind, but I'm now panicking that somethings wrong and the baby hasn't been growing as it should. Has anyone else been 2 weeks behind when scanned and everything been ok?
Thank you!

Sorry this is my first post and I didn't mean for the above to come up on this thread! Sorry.
I am overweight and when I went for my booking appointment I felt really worried about and brought it up straight away, the Mw was really nice tho. I'm trying to be as healthy as I can now but do wish I'd lost weight before. Do slimming world do anything different considering you're pregnant or is it the normal plan? Well done on 8lbs!

My bmi is 42. Have never been made to feel disgusting through this pregnancy. If anything i am getting looked after more! Which isn't a bad thing. I will be 20 weeks on tues and as we had to let our baby girl go at 21 weeks in my previous pregnancy i totally welcome the extra care

Thanks for your replies everyone. Absolutely not criticising the care and nobody has said anything horrible to me at All, my midwife is the post lovely lady, it's my own personal feeling of guilt that I can't move past.

In answer to the slimming world question, you get extra Healthy Extras and you have to have your weight loss approved by a midwife, so my midwife has to sign it to say she's happy for me to continue xx

@1987Laura, I'm so sorry to hear about your little girl. Heartbroken for you. Really wishing you lots of love and luck for the remainder of this pregnancy xx