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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Not sure where to put this.... here seems right

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:23

We had an "accident" on Saturday night. I had only finished my period on Thursday BUT I think I may have ovulated on Sunday. ( I have the whole it hurts when I ovulate thing!!)

Please someone tell me I may NOT be pregnant. I already have 2 gorgeous girls and weren't planning anymore. I got pregnant 1st time trying with both DDs and we are usually so careful.

If I am then I'll get used to it but I've just got a new teaching job which I start in september ( I haven't really worked in 3 years) and we are not well off.

Please tell me that it will all be fine if I am pregnant and that 3 is a lovely number and that we'll cope.

Also when will I start to get symptoms if I am. I am paranoid now.

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SoupDragon · 20/06/2007 13:25

it will all be fine if you're pregnant and 3 is a lovely number and you'll cope.

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:26

Thank you. I needed to hear that.

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ledodgy · 20/06/2007 13:27

You could very well be pregnant i'm eleven weeks pregnant as a result of similar circumstances and I am still repeating the 3 is a lovely number mantra to myself.

fannyannie · 20/06/2007 13:29

3 is lovely - DS2 (and nearly 4 week old DS3) were both 'accidents' - DS2 had been 'thought' of but not actually planned - DS3 was not on the cards AT ALL - I even took the MAP but it didn't work - so he's here and wonderful.

JodieG1 · 20/06/2007 13:30

3 is great! Our 3rd was unplanned and he's nearly 6 months now. Gorgeous lovely baby

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:30

Thankyou all. I'm trying to stay positive but really wish I could do a test this early so I'd know one way or the other.

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fillyjonk · 20/06/2007 13:31

dizzy, tbh, you probably AREN'T

even if you ovulated, even if you were at peak fertility, you probably only have about a 1/4 chance of pg in any given cycle. So you have a 75% chance of it all being ok.

I might be wrong but...surely you could take the MAP in these circumstances, just ? (I know they say 3 days but you're only just outside that, and it takes about a week for implantation to occur anyway. Possibly worth a go).

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:32

ledodgy, how soon did you start getting symptoms? If you don't mind me being nosy

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twoplusone · 20/06/2007 13:32

dizzymac- if you are pg you will be fine hun.. I am 36weeks pg with number 3 and we are by no means well off. I havent worked in nearly 4 years.. Our kids are 10yrs (11 in Oct) 3yrs (yesterday) and due 15th July..

You will manage, plenty of us do.. it is amazing how you can budget for something like this when you thought you had no extra disposable cash.

Good luck Hun.xx

ledodgy · 20/06/2007 13:33

I wouldn't take the map after 3 days tbh as there is a risk of something not working properly and a possible pregnancy may turn into an ectopic.

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:34

Don't shout at me fillyjonk.... But I just couldn't take the MAP. I did think about it BUT I decided to let nature take its course. I know it sounds hypocritical considering we use condoms but it just felt the wrong thing for me.

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ledodgy · 20/06/2007 13:35

I got them around 5-7 days after we had done the deed. I have felt very very sick during this pregnancy much moreso than with my others and dizzy as well. I just sort of knew I wasn't feeling right and got a bfp around 10 dpo.

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:36

Thanks. I couldn't remember when I had started feeling yuk with the others

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fillyjonk · 20/06/2007 13:40

oh god, dizzy, why would I shout at you for not wanting to take the MAP? A decision like this has to be yours. I am just saying that the option IS there, and all it does is stop a fertilised egg implanting (which it very often won't do anyway)

I desperately didn't want 3 kids. I wanted 2. But similar events occured a couple of months ago-and it seems I was in the unlucky 25%, and I HAVE started coming around to it. I am NOT delighted. I DO feel like my life has been curtailed, just when it was getting back on track. But I didn't want to terminate (still not 100% sure that was the right decision really). Am resigned, really, which is not the greatest thing, but it will do for now.

if it helps, symptoms started for me around 5 weeks. i got a positive response on a clearblue test around 3 days before period due.

you kind of sound like you do want this a little bit, though? thats probably going to put you in a much better position.

LackingNicknameInspiration · 20/06/2007 13:45

dizzy, I'm one of three and loved it (and I'm the middle one) - only on my first at the moment but plan to have 3 for that reason, despite the extra upheaval, cost etc.
My parents also seem reasonably pleased with the outcome
Not sure how old your DDs are but should think they'd be very excited if no. 3 did come along.
It will be fine!

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:45

I've only just put the cot away and life seems to be settling into some sort of normality after several years of changes ( not child related) and I really thought I could settle into life now, with the small family we wanted. I will be fine, because I'll have to be but I'm really not ready for it.

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fillyjonk · 20/06/2007 13:50

dizzy you sound very different to how i was when i realised things had, ahem, not gone to plan. I hadn't appreciated that from your posts.

I actively didn't want it. you sound like you can accept that this is something life has chucked at you. I do think you will be fine. If not, MN is here. Seriously.

This is a hard thing to get through, IMO, despite it being very commonplace. DO talk if you need to. I am relying anyway on all the MN threads I have posted on being gone (somehow) before my kids learn to read

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:53

Thanks. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who's been in this situation although it does feel scary at the moment.
It could all be for nothing though, so I need to try and stop worrying or I'll be a wreck by the time I can take a test.

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newlifenewname · 20/06/2007 13:54

Only one of my three was planned. On top of that I can't say thta life has panned out fabulously after having my third either BUT I am very, very happy despite financial struggles and other stuff.

With a loving partner I'm sure you will be doubly fine (I'm alone with my 3).

I really do think it is best to try and avoid regret and celebrate the opportunity even if it means other plans go awry.

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 13:57

You are all so helpful. I'm glad I posted rather than stay pent up with stress.

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fillyjonk · 20/06/2007 14:00

at nlnn

dizzy, if nothing else, perhaps this is an opportunity to think about what you want?

IMO a LOT of women do kind of want another child but don't feel they can justify it, so are suprised but pleased when it happens.

So even if you are not pg-IS it something you want?

newlifenewname · 20/06/2007 14:04

Hi fj, how you doing head and body wise?!

Oncebitten · 20/06/2007 14:06

OMG i was contemplating starting a thread about nearly exact situation. I only have one DD though and its been 5 days since me and DP had a (drunkern)careless incident. The very next day I had ovulation pains and I began to crap myself. Now, I've come round to the idea a bit, which worries me that the back ache and booby pain im feeling at mo, is imaginary... I wish I could take a test earlier too becos id like to know if i can still have a bottle of wine on the weekend!!! Will perhaps abstain just incase.

By the way, what is a bfp? I have been on the TCC threads to try and find out about early symptons, cos I just feel a little odd.

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dizzymac · 20/06/2007 14:13

Hello Once bitten (waves at person in similar situation) I'm having the same "phantom" sypmtoms.

Fillyjonk. If I'm not pregnant DH will be wearing 2 condoms and I'll be on the pill before I let him ANYWHERE near me again.

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Oncebitten · 20/06/2007 14:28

Its bizarre isn't it! I know that time will tell but suddenly (even though it was the last thing i wanted right now pre-incident) I am impatient to know! To the point of thinking of little else! I also daren't go out running and/or drink, just incase...

But that said, if it all turns out to be a false alarm, i shall be a LOT more careful in future!

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