"You look ready to pop" "Are you sure it's not twins?"

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Just a rant, plain and simple... I know people don't mean to be rude, but if I'm told one more time how big I am.... like seriously. I'm 30 weeks and yes, I'm having a big baby, he's healthy and doing really well.... so why do I constantly need to be told by everyone how big I am. It really does start to grate on you.

I'm 5ft 8, my partner is 6ft 3 - it's unlikely we'd have a super petite little one.

I think people tell me I look like I'm full term, at least 4/5 times a day.... why does it always make you feel self conscious when it should be a compliment?

34 weeks now and I’ve been getting the same for weeks. The ridiculous thing is I’m actually measuring 2cms under!
I think it’s a combination of people looking for something to say, and also that people just forget how big pregnancy bumps are so everyone looks ‘massive’ to them.
Annoying though!

That's a good point! I think people have no concept of how you should look... I just wish it wasn't so jarring. It feels like people constantly calling you fat!

I get this on a daily basis. I'm 33 weeks and haven't gained any weight during my pregnancy (I had plenty to lose so it's not a worry) and my bump is actually measuring "small" at my midwife appointments. Why people feel this is an appropriate comment I will never know!!

If it’s any consolation, I’m getting the opposite. Almost 35 weeks and people keep saying my bump is really small and am I sure the baby is growing okay. I’m measuring exactly on the 50 percentile mark! I think people just like to comment!

I was at a toddler group yesterday and had one person tell me I looked massive, the next person I spoke to told me I had a tiny bump

With dc 2 I was measuring small and having weekly growth scans and all the people telling me I didn’t look 7/8 months pregnant, I hardly had a bump, was everything ok with the baby etc really upset me. I think I prefer being told I’m big to small as small implies you’re failing to grow the baby properly.

I got the opposite and I hated it, I even had one girl keep saying to me I would go and get checked out as you're to small, she went on and on. It's like people are implying something is wrong. I went onto have a 9lb9 baby! Good luck.

I’m only 24wks and I keep getting, “oh, I can’t believe you’re not due until then, you look ready to drop”. Admittedly, its DC3 and I am much bigger than I was with my first pregnancies. But even so, I don’t get how it’s suddenly not rude to comment on someone’s size just because they’re pregnant!!

People have no idea when it comes to bump size and should just keep their mouths shut!

I am pregnant with twins and today was told I look really small for being 27w with twins, yesterday someone else told me I'm getting really big, you really can't win! You just have to ignore them!

had one person tell me I looked massive, the next person I spoke to told me I had a tiny bump

Yup. I'm only 23 weeks but this week someone told me I looked very neat and seemed barely pregnant, someone else asked when I'm due and then asked if it was twins.

I think people feel the need to comment and don't know what to say so I don't really mind.

Had someone ask me if I'm more concerned about climate change now I'm expecting, that was weird!

How annoying.... I wish people would just say "you look really well, you must be so excited" - they wouldnt comment on your dress size in normal life would they?!

Just say "i know,not bad for quads ey?"

What till after the birth. I used to get advice on feeding and clothing from all quarters when my eldest DD was in her pram. Actually she was crying because she had become accustomed to being carried everywhere, and wanted me to pick up up whilst food shopping. People don't mean any harm usually. It's just something to say, often.

If it makes you feel any better, a few ago (I'm 35 weeks now) I was in a shop and the cashier told me how big I was and asked me if I was having twins. I found it quite rude tbh and I'm having a 'normal' sized baby according to the chart so if I get that then it just goes to show that most people are like this with pregnant women unfortunately.

But at least you know it's not just you and as long as baby is healthy, doesn't really matter what other people think of our bumps!

It used to upset me when rude strangers felt the need to say this to me as I lost one of my twins at 10 weeks. I wish I had been brave enough to say “well I was but now there is only one”.

I fee ya OP! Someone at work today asked when I was due and when I told him he said "wow, still a while to go and you're already that massive!" "...WOW you're a dick" was swirling round my head. It's only 3.5 weeks until my due date!

Also the amount of people who feel the need to tell me that "every time" they see me I'm bigger.... I mean it's generally how pregnancy works. And I know these people don't have bad intentions but it REALLY bothers me too. I just don't know why people feel the need to comment on your size. It's inappropriate and insensitive pregnant or not.

37 weeks and for the past month I've regularly been told how huge my bump is and asked if I'm having twins or a massive baby (no to both, I just have a short torso so my bump sticks out a lot). This week people have started commenting uninvited on how low/high my bump is sitting and therefore when I'm likely to go to labour. They just have no boundaries when it comes to pregnancy. But it's probably good preparation for after the birth when even more unwelcome advice will be coming our way...

From 6 months with Ds1 I was told the same. One bloke at work gasped in horror when I told him I still had 3 more months to go and said 'my wife wasn't as big as you the day before she gave birth!'

People should really just keep their traps shut.

@mattberryshair eeee that’s terrible!! What is wrong with people ?!

I got this for weeks before ds arrived, made worse by the fact I had twins previously!!
Ds was born last week at 39 weeks weighing 9lb 6ozs, I grow big babies.