Feeling bullied for being pregnant

[nemosparents]

I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant, first pregnancy so every thing is new. My sister however has been pregnant before, more than once. But it feels like whatever I say about my pregnancy, she always has something to say about it, but nothing really positive. For example, I was saying about my bloat and how much it looks like a bump now, all she said was " you won't show yet because of your weight and it's your first pregnancy". But yet she was allowed to call it a bump at 8 weeks with her first pregnancy. It always feels like I'm not allowed to enjoy my pregnancy, I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow but i feel like I don't even want to show her as she will say something negative. Also I really suffered with morning sickness not just nausea but vomiting, sometimes all day, but because she didn't suffer with her pregnancies she's making it out like I'm just faking it or it's not as bad as I'm making it out to be. I'm so sick of it, I feel like I'm being bullied because im pregnant rather than enjoying it. I know I'm emotional but I feel like I'm being picked on and it's stressing me out.

Maybe she is jealous? I would try and ignore her or maybe have a quiet word with her about how it's making you feel?? I'm 12 weeks pregnant and I have a bump so I'm assuming you do too. Try not to let it take away from the happiness of your baby. Hope you feel better soon xx

Well she sounds like a delight 🙄

I would stop discussing it with her to be honest. You’re allowed to be in your happy little bubble and she has no right to burst it.

Hope all goes well with your scan :)

Just ignore her - sounds like she's jealous of you getting attention. I wouldn't discuss it when she's around - save it for people who are more fun.

zip those lips around her. She is a joy thief. Congratulations on your baby :)

She sounds tedious and unkind. Don't tell her about the scan unless you want to, if she's consistently unpleasant towards you, you don't have to continue to tell her everything.

I'd try and see her a bit less for now as well.

Congratulations on your baby bump! Commiserations on the sickness. I don't know why it's called morning sickness when it's actually morning, noon and night. Nibbling ginger nut biscuits can help.

I am curious to know - is your sister older or younger than you? (I too have a difficult sister.)

Don't let her upset you. Stop sharing your pregnancy with her. You are a temple of baby wonderwoman amazingness and you don't need that kind of negative shit.

My own mother was like this with me. I had HG all the way through and was admitted multiple times then got diagnosed with OC at the end. Slagged me off for being "dramatic" etc.

Only advice I can give is do not let anyone take away from your experience. Everyone's is different and this is your own beautiful and maybe sometimes not so fun journey. Your sister sounds horrible to be honest but I know full well how we can't pick our families sadly.

OP you are starting your own family now so focus on that because that is what is important and try and enjoy the experience without worrying about other people and the negativity they bring- I gave other people too much thought and sadly it cast a cloud over some parts at the time.

Congratulations

My sister is like this. Couldn't resist bursting my bubble at every opportunity. First time she met my DH: "Oh Greensleeves, wherever did you find him, he's just as biddable as DStepfather but not nearly so unsightly". First time she saw my first home: "Gosh, you've been ever so clever with your furniture. It hardly seems pokey at all!".

Haven't seen her for 15 years. Don't plan to.

I'd minimise contact with your passive-aggressive, joy-sucking Dementor of a sibling now, before she can rob you of any more of life's pleasures.