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xPinkRosex · 13/11/2018 12:21

Hello. I'm new to this forum and it's taken me a lot of courage to write this post as I've been afraid on how to word it and being judged etc but I really could do with some advice off other ladies who may or may not of been in a similar situation to mine.
Okay so, I am legally married to my ex, was together for years, split up half way through the year. It was in my mind over a long long time before it actually happened but due to having shared a house together with our young child I had nowhere to go so therefore until my house came up 2 months later we was all under one roof which was very tough and not the best of atmospheres as you could imagine. Anyway, just got things sorted and agreed our child would live with me but we would sort out a rota for him to see his child etc which would of great, we just turned into friends there was nothing between us anymore so had decided best thing to happen was to go separate ways. Within this time frame with only a week left to leave the house, my ex had a awful accident which nearly cost him his life, severe head injuries and now he is miracusly (sorry cant spell it) on the mend which is fantastic news as it could of been a funeral. Now as you can imagine everything has been turned upside down, everything was super fast paced, I had to move into my house and start everything over, childs dad hasn't been around of course because of his injuries and it has been one hell of a tough journey. Now this is the part where I have been worried about writing. There is no chance what so ever that I would of gotton back with my ex because we just no longer was that way with one another, and over the past few months I had met someone, I wasn't looking to meet anyone my head was all over the place and quite frankly I just wanted to get along in life and just keep all my focus on my child. However things happened, and 2 days ago I have found out I'm pregnant with the new persons baby. We are still seeing eachother, however he is not from locally around here and he knew all about my past and whats going on with my ex etc and has been very supportive which has been amazing to feel wanted etc again, but now I have found out I'm pregnant (about 4 weeks I presume, doctors appointment later on this week) and because everything has just moved so fast paced I am literally all in a mess in my head because I don't know what to do. Now Me and my ex took years to have our child, thought we couldn't have children so never once in my mind did I think anything about the possibilities of getting pregnant especially so quick but now here I am and I feel lost and awful and confused etc and I really could do with some advice on what I should do about it because I really have no idea :( Thanks for reading xx

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Blazeisamonster · 13/11/2018 12:26

Congratulations. It’s been a tough year for you!
I would tell the father but keep the relationship still slow even though your having a child it doesn’t mean he has to live with you.

xPinkRosex · 13/11/2018 13:16

Thank you for your reply :) Yes it has been a bit of a rollercoaster in all fairness. Yes I agree with you on the living part, an issue I have though is as I'm still by law married, does the ex has rights to a child that isn't biologically his? I've read online it can cause some trouble as in eyes of the law they automatically class a child as the husbands which would make things very weird of course.

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Blazeisamonster · 15/11/2018 11:43

I’m sorry I really have no idea but you could ring up the registry office and ask them what your could do. I do know that when your married you have to register the birth of your children again tho so it sounds right that the child may be automatically exes.

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