Pregnancy after miscarriage - so scared that it will happen again!

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I have just found out that I’m pregnant (very early days, will be 4 weeks on Wednesday). I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks back in August, it took 11 weeks for periods to return and now I’m pregnant again after just one cycle.
I’m so scared that I’m going to have another miscarriage. Each time I go to the toilet I’m paranoid there will be blood on the tissue. I’m going to keep testing every two days to make sure the line is getting darker, and I’m going to book an early reassurance scan for 7/8 weeks.
How can I enjoy this pregnancy or get excited? How did you all get through the crucial first 12 weeks? At what point did you start to enjoy the pregnancy and feel excited?
I’m so worried, it’s literally the only thing I’m thinking about all the time

I'm in the same boat OP - I had a chemical pregnancy in April and a miscarriage at 6 weeks at the beginning of October. I'm now 6 weeks pregnant and I am literally terrified to look everytime I go to the loo. I'm having cramps which doesn't help! However the midwife did say that the likelihood is that this pregnancy will be fine, so I am keeping my fingers crossed. It's such a worrying time isn't it

@Ilovemypyjamas fingers crossed our little beans will be ok!
I tested again today and the line has got darker which I feel happier about. I’m going to spend a fortune on tests

A friend of mine sadly miscarried at 10 weeks. Found out she was pregnant a month or a few after that. Just last week had a healthy baby born.

Also, I know it's hard but don't spend on tests to see if the line gets darker. It's not a reliable indicator of pregnancy progression at all and you'll spend loads! I specifically remember a post on here a few months ago where a poor lady warned against doing this as her tests had been progressing fantastically (unlike her first miscarriage) however, she sadly suffered another miscarriage. I know it's bloody difficult having to suffer the wait but the tests will cause you so much stress analysing the lines!

Good luck

Hi I had 2mcs in 2006 had my DD in 2008 and DS 2009 I then had a mmc march of this year with and erpc done in April , I'm now 16+4 wks pg all going well so far , honestly I just kept thinking what will be will be taking each day as it Came and I paid for an early scan at 9+1 which helped massively then my bag scan I was just over 13 wks .Hugs to you both hope you have sticky beans and healthy and happy pregnancies xx

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@crazybaabaa congratulations to you! I think I will pay for an early scan too. I just want to enjoy this pregnancy and not stress the whole time!
My son was born at 33 weeks due to severe pre-eclampsia so I have that worry too

@Cleojinx thank you. It really is so hard!

I'm in the same boat. Miscarried at 7 weeks back in August. Now have just found out I'm pregnant again! So happy but also so anxious! Just hope this one sticks. God knows how I'm going to get through the next 12 weeks!

@horsecrazymumtobe congratulations! So difficult to not worry, I’m not sure how I would cope if it happened again. Told my husband that I’m too scared to DTD with him again now!

I’m in the same boat, just had BFP today but had early miscarriage in August and every twinge I’m panicking about and dreading going to the loo

Fingers crossed for all of us

@DartmoorDoughnut congratulations and fingers crossed for you. I’m exactly the same, will feel a little better when I pass the 5 week mark next week as that’s when I miscarried before. Think I will book an early scan for 7 or 8 weeks!

Hey guys this is my first post on here!! I'm due on the 15th may. This is my 6th pregnancy but unfortunately I have lost every one. My longest pregnancy was 7 months,I caught the parvo virus ( I live in a big farming community). My little baby boy was stillborn. This is the longest I've carried since then. That was 2013.I just wanted to say,I know it's so difficult not to worry and panic but please try too. Your body will be a lot happier if you are calm. I used to get so paranoid every time I went to the toilet e.c.t,scared to death that something bad would happen. I explained all of my feelings to my midwife and they have all been brilliant. I have a scan every 3 weeks because I asked if I could for peace of mind don't be afraid to stress all of worries onto the medical professionals. They are there to make sure you and your babies are safe and stress free. Speak to everyone about your worries,friends family,doctors. Don't hide your anxiety. Wishing safe pregnancies to you all xxx

@Em4clive so sorry for what you have been through! That’s must have been absolutely horrendous. How many weeks are you now?
I have booked an appointment with my GP for Monday and will discuss my concerns with her and see if they will scan early. I am a high risk pregnancy (because of severe pre-eclampsia with first) so I will be scanned a lot more often anyway.
Trying my best not to worry, but every little pain and symptom that I’m getting I start googling it
My lower abdomen feels really bloated and full today, and my back is are so I’m panicking!

I'm 15 weeks now,so going along nicely. It took a long time to come to terms with what happened,as it does for all miscarriages and lost babies. I have been having really bad pains too,I thought this is it it's going to end up like the rest. I went straight to my local hospital,they were really good with me. I think once they understand just how worried and afraid you are they try everything they can to help. I used to get really upset when people would say " it's just pregnancy pains". I think if you understand why there is a pain,for example stretching pains, you feel a lot better about it. Do you have a close group of mummy friends you can talk with? My sister has 4 children so I ask her advice a lot. I'm really bloated as Well,to be honest I look much further gone than I am. My midwife said it's good extra padding,not fat or over eating just my bodies way of making a safe little cushion. Hopefully you will get extra scans and appointments too,due to your past. I have a scan next week with a consultant do I'll go from there. I understand how you feel,my partner has to grab my phone away from me alot,Google isn't always a friend. I know it's hard but relaxing and taking each day at a time is how I'm coping,hopefully you will find peace of mind too. Just don't be afraid to ask every question that comes into your mind. X

@Em4clive thank you, really appreciate your reply. I do have lots of mummy friends who I can talk too, some who have recently had babies so I could chat with them. I’m trying to keep busy at the moment to get me through each day, but making sure I rest when I need to. I know I will worry the whole way through, but I’m hoping it will lessen slightly when I get through the first 12 weeks