Help. ?paternity

[HollieDee]

Ok, so please try not to pass judgements, difficult I know. So here goes. I had my period on the 23/09 and found out I was pregnant on the 04/11 (1 day after my period was due I have 42ish day cycles). BUT I had sex on the 03/11, the day before my positive test with my ex boyfriend! I’m completely unsure on paternity? Is it the guy I was sleeping with for the last 3 months or is it my ex’s? I feel really stupid- but surely you can’t get a positive pregnancy test the day after you’ve slept with someone? Unless I was already pregnant! I know it was a really sh thing for me to do whilst I’m sleeping with the other guy. But now, I just feel absolutely horrendous and have no idea. I don’t want to tell anyone cause I’m so ashamed. Someone please shed light. Oh I had a scan today 9/11 which said I was 5 weeks. Is it obvious that the other guy is the dad? Or am I just being super paranoid about sleeping with me ex? Please help, from a very stressed pregnant person, feeling rather shy about herself!

I’m sorry to be so blunt here but you’ve answered your own question.
If a scan today dates you at 5 weeks pregnant then you were already pregnant on 3rd so it’s obviously not the guys you slept with on that day.

No, I need someone to be blunt- because im going crazy!!

You were already pregnant for you to have enough hormones to get a positive.

As above, you were already pregnant when you slept with your ex so it’s definitely not his.

Be kind to yourself x

Thank you for replying. I’m feeling pretty horrendous right now. Never ever thought I’d be in this position. I feel like a future guest of Jeremy Kyle.

I keep worrying! I should never have met my ex. I’m feel so annoyed at myself.

X

It’s happened now you can’t undo it so be kind to yourself. People do much worse things and as there’s no concern about paternity now it’s much less complicated.
Early pregnancy is full of emotions.
All will be ok :)

Honestly, if I could go back to my early 20's and not do certain things then I would! We all make mistakes, you're human.

You guys are so kind, it’s made me well up! I expected some pretty horrendous responses!

Thanks again! I’m still paranoid though 😭

Yes, thank you. When I think about it logically. I had sex with my ex 5 days ago and today I’m 5 weeks pregnant. So I’m pretty sure of paternity. Thank you guys for the reassurance.