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Worried about going on leave...and about coming back!

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DashOfMagic · 08/11/2018 21:13

Hi all,

I work in a small team in a small company and I am in the highest position. I’m about to go off on adoption leave (start of January) and when I do my deputy will act up in my position and our admin will increase to full time. Im really worried when I return my deputy will feel dissatisfied in his old role and our assistant will be dissatisfied with lesser hours.

But I’m not sure what to do about it? I am confident they’ll do a wonderful job but once I’m back there is not really any justification for pay rises, adding extra hrs or additional senior positions to recognise this or continue their development.

Any advice is really welcomed. I’m close to my team and feel I’ve done a good job getting us to where we are, I’m apprehensive about the shift in dynamics.

Also on a personal level I’m finding my own emotions tricky with worrying everyone will think it’s better without me, and deputy has started stepping up with ideas and wanting to do lots of things in my role which makes sense but it’s making me think he thinks I’m not doing the handover/job well enough. I really want to be supportive of them not let worry/jealousy affect how I respond to ideas.

I have planned a meeting to talk to both of them to go through plans for the handover period (we have already done quite a lot but can be definite now adoption dates are all confirmed) and would like to address what the deputy would like from handover period and what they both would like/envisage when I return.

Any thoughts??

Thank you x

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Thetimehascometo · 08/11/2018 21:44

You sound like you have it all under control... in my experience people who ‘cover’ leave are sometimes desperate to drop back into their normal role, or it may give them the taste and experience to move on elsewhere. I wouldn’t worry too much, enjoy your time with your new family

ChaosMoon · 09/11/2018 15:49

Congratulations @DashOfMagic, this is such an exciting time for you!

Your deputy stepping in with ideas is more likely to be that he's excited than that he doesn't think you're doing a good job. And the chances are that your secretary will be very glad to get her free time back when her hours reduced again. That's certainly what happened with my sabbatical cover when I got back!

Your deputy may start looking for a new role with more responsibility when you return. But that could happen regardless of whether you go on adoption leave. Sometimes people are just ready for that challenge, and if he feels ready to step up and cover you now, he'd probably feel ready soon anyway. Or, he may feel like that taster was enough.

Either way, it's going to be ok. Have an amazing time off!

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