Shit midwife?

[AnonyMousee]

Hi all, first pregnancy, 38 weeks.

I have no idea about the size of my baby, and if she is 'engaged'

At my midwife appointments she takes my blood pressure, wee sample, checks the heartbeat and feels my tummy then that's it. I know she's head down but apart from that I have no clue about her being engaged? If she's big/small? if she thinks she's going to be early/late?

People keep asking me is she's engaged yet but I'm going to be honest, I'm not actually sure what that bloody means!!! Midwife isn't telling me much and feel a bit lost ??

Like others I think it is your expectations. I actually do have my midwife’s mobile number but I haven’t needed to call her. If there was anything concerning I’d rather cal triage and head into the hospital. I think your friends’ experiences re estimating size and due date etc were unusual. At your stage it is just a waiting game. My waters broke suddenly at 38 weeks. No warning, no cramps etc. I had seen multiple midwives (community and hospital) the day before as my blood pressure spiked. There was no way they could have known the next day things were going to start nor would I have wanted them to have made random predictions.

I’m 33 weeks with baby number 3 and have never had the experience your friends have mentioned. Even growth scans are notoriously inaccurate at predicting the baby’s weight so a midwife saying ‘it’s going to be big/small’ is just making polite chit chat. Actually in my second pregnancy a midwife said ‘ooh I’ll be surprised if you make it to term with this one’ and she was born at 40+2.