Help please!! My baby is almost 4 months old and I have taken two.....

[Emz2019]

Help please we have been using condoms and I was due my coil fitted this week as my period was due last Thursday so I’m now 5 days late. But last month I was 10 days late so I haven’t thought much of it, my baby is almost 4 months old so my periods have been very different from before I had him so last month I had taken a pregnancy test which said I was not pregnant which I never thought I was I didn’t feel pregnant I was just ruling it out since I was 10 days late. So this month I had ovulation pain and counted 14 days from that and I’m now 5 days late and thought I can’t be pregnant because we are careful but I bought two cheap tests from Morrison’s and took them both just before. Could they be wrong? I never used cheap tests before

5 days late and that strong a positive i'd be wondering if it was multiples.

Not necessarily, my tests were always strong like that. Even at one or two days late. And I’ve never had a multiple pregnancy.

Hope all works out ok op. Take care of yourself

I have the coil but remember they won’t fit it for ages as apparently it can go wandering off after having a baby. I’m really fertile too so nervous times.

Just remind dh that he was lucky he was getting some nookie baring in mind you had a young baby It’s also not your fault. You obviously didn’t impregnate yourself. I’m sure after the initial shock he will be ok. Anyway, the egg remains still. It’s the sperm that swam there!! His doing . He shouldn’t have such good swimmers then (chuckle) xxx

Don't get unduly worried about multiples, my test was that strong at 1 day late, and there's only the one in there. But I convinced extremely early in my cycle, hence also getting the clear blue 3+ also at one day late.

How are you OP? X

I am ok everyone been feeling sickly the last 3 days. I still haven’t told my partner yet. He said to me yesterday have you not came on your period yet? I said no I’m around 10 days late now he said oh well same as last month. I said yeah it is, he said well I was going to suggest we take a test but didn’t want to upset you. I said why would that upset me? He said because I don’t think you would want to be pregnant. But he hasn’t mentioned it anymore so today I think instead of telling him Iv known for a week and kept it from him that I suggest we go buy a test

@Emz2019 that sounds like a good idea, it's nice that he's taking your feelings into account.

Good luck and we're here if you need us x

Its good that he sounds more concerned about how you will feel than about you actually being pregnant. Hopefully its a sign he will be supportive and it will ease the stress you're under slightly.

Wow how have u even had time to conceive !!

Ok so I said this morning that we should test now As I’m 11 days late and he said yea it’s a good idea and he said how do I feel about it? Do I want to be pregnant with such a young baby and it’s fine if I do but he says it will be very hard. Iv agreed it would be hard and we are taking the test soon once he gets back from the shop. Deep down I don’t know how I feel, if I were to start bleeding right now I’d feel quite upset and gutted. My heads a mess

I don’t want to jinx myself but my baby has been sleeping all night since he was 2 weeks old lol

It's lovely to see your partner is so supportive and will support you whatever. Goodluck with everything whatever you decide xx

I’ve got two 13 months apart, and they are super close. Then we went on to have another so we then had 3, 3 and under. I love the close age gap, and it’s been hard but great to go through the baby stage of each child so quickly and now emerge 6 years after our first to find we have 3 children, all toilet-trained and independent that we can do so much more as a family, they have the same interests and we are not held back by having a pregnancy or a small baby to factor into our plans.

My brother and I are only 11 months apart! Obviously came as a huge shock to my Mum and wasn't intended. She managed. We grew up almost as if we had been twins as we are in the same school year! 🙈. My brother and I did everything together and are really close. We've had children within several months of each other so now grandchildren are all the same age. It's worked out really well and I think my mum is now genuinely happy about the very close age gap even if it was the biggest shock of her life at the time. It can be done. Good luck!

Thinking of you OP. Your DP sounds lovely and supportive from what you’ve written that he would be there whatever you choose to do.

My third pregnancy was a real shock. I was pretty distraught tbh.
For many reasons that child has been a huge blessing and I am so thankful she was conceived ( on day 8 of my cycle ).
You and your dh will decide together what is best for your family.

OP I have no advice other than am sending love and hope you and your husband are on the same page. You both sound like brilliant parents x

Endofthine - your post reminded me how my third was unplanned, I had criticism from people for having a third (never from my DH) and what a blessing she has been. She’s 19 now and I still feel that way. DH did have the snip though after she was born.

11 months between me and my sister then 16 months for brother. Personally think my mum was mad but she says it was great, for everything our of the way all at once.

Ul be fine, ul get through it, it'll be hard work but it's lovely to have babies close together, I hope ur eldest gets well soon and I wish u all the best x

I was in the same situation seven years ago. I had two under the age of two and no plans for another, was using contraception and barely had energy or time for sex anyway. Found out I was pregnant when DC2 was just short of six months old. I felt like the world had ended, I was absolutely devastated. Booked a termination but couldn’t go through with it, she’s now six and absolutely lovely .

I won’t butter it up though, it was hard work and I spent a good 2/3 years on autopilot. You will survive this if you decide to go through with the pregnancy but obviously you and DP need to strongly consider your options.

Hi everyone my partner said what ever i decide he’s by my side but he said I need to look after myself, I was in and out of hospital with my last pregnancy as my heart was not coping at the end. They told me if I wanted more children to wait 18 months before trying to give my heart a chance to recover from the pregnancy but working out my dates my baby was less than 3 months old when I conceived. It would be a little dangerous for me to have this baby. I have booked a termination consultation, however I’m already having doubts and my partner says that fine it’s upto me so that takes a lot of pressure off but my head is a mess and don’t know which way to turn

You have time to think about what you want to do.