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Pregnant, have 1x 6month old and partner is a cheat

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Lauren1989 · 05/11/2018 22:51

So not too sure where to start but I’m looking for some advice.
My partner and I had been together 3 years and then we had our son. When our son was 3 months old I found out my partner cheated with a family friend. To make matters worse a couple of weeks later down the line the woman he slept with is now accusing him of rape.

Absolutely soul crushing, my whole world fell apart again even worse than I could of ever imagined. I don’t believe he rapped her, he has never been that way with me and it’s just not in his nature (in my opinion).

Before all this came to light i had just started back at work full time and was loving it. Everything was in place.

So I asked him to leave the family home which we privately rent. He would continue coming over when I needed him for childcare, we remain amicable and friendly.

Because I work three nights a week he ends up staying in the spare room, one night I had far too much to drink and instigated sexual relations between us- big mistake. Took the morning after pill and thought nothing more of it.

For the last week I have been feeling so Poorly and tired. I just thought I’d do a test and make sure I wasn’t pregnant... well I am. No idea how far, but going off the night we did the deed I’ll be about 2 months pregnant.

What the hell do I do... my life has already been turned upside down and I’m just getting back ok track after his ordeal of cheating on me. At the same time my ds is so beautiful and so fun I wouldn’t mind having another.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

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Tadda · 06/11/2018 04:40

Do you have any close family or friends you can share this with OP?

Also, I'd give this man a serious swerve!! Look after yourself and your DC - you don't need to include him in your life - be strong in yourself!

Seren96 · 06/11/2018 04:55

Sorry you're feeling so down, but none of the above matters... what matters is you have a little person growing inside you and you have to now put your hurt aside and make whatever decision is best for your little baby and of course you. Forget about the cheating partner etc ( as hard as that is ) there's more important things to focus on now. I'm a single parent and I actually think it's brilliant, rewarding and wouldn't have it any other way. It is possible, and it isn't the end of the world. Good luck x

fontofnoknowledge · 06/11/2018 05:21

Just because the MAP didn't work, doesn't mean you can't have a termination. Two children with this waste of space is not a good idea.
Always your body your choice though.

artemis2 · 06/11/2018 06:18

Think about having a termination?

Bringing another child into the world whose father is a disgusting pig and potential rapist sounds like a bad idea. And just because he didn't do it to you does not mean he didn't do it to someone else!! I'd be more inclined to be on the woman's side and listen to what she's been through.

TheDayMyButtWentPsycho · 06/11/2018 08:31

Because he didnt rape you, you believe he didn't rape that other woman?

It's a family friend. What on Earth would she get out of it to accuse him of rape?

Wake up and smell the coffee. If this thread is genuine then your partner is a nasty bastard rapist and you need to distance yourself as far away from him as possible because he is a threat to women.

I hope this family friend finds the strength with in her to go to the police and see it all the way through to the end. I hope she gets the support she needs.

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