Worried I wont be ready for baby coming

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Im freaking myself out everynight that I dont have enough time to buy everything I need.
Im due feb 5th and literally panicking

Im worried the nursery wont be finished, she wont have enough clothes, i wont have enough nappies, i wont have enough of anything for me, that the cats wont be sorted with food and litter, that theyll freak out over a baby and ill have to get rid of them which will break my heart, and basically that I wont be good enough....

Please tell me im not alone?

If it’s any consolation I’m due at the end of December and so far have a pack of nappies . You’ve got loads of time!

You're not alone and honestly you will be fine babies actually need very little when they arrive and don't worry re the nursery baby is likely to be with you to start with. We were in the middle of a renovation project when PFB arrived no kitchen, only an en Suite and a bedroom done - I remember sterilising bottles on a bedroom windowsill! Good luck OP 

Why don't you do a list of everything you need then sit down and plan to tick things off the list weeklet/fortnightly/monthly? It would also be good to know exactly how much money you will need for everything as it all adds up

You won't need the nursery for 6 months plus, so don't worry about that. Supermarkets sell everything you need, you will have clothes coming out of your ears from gifts etc. It will be fine. Online shopping will be your friend.

Also I agree with PP - it will all be fine and work out! I was organised with my second but on the day my baby was born I realised that I hadn't actually ordered bottles despite ticking it off my list so a quick order on amazon prime and they were delivered for me getting home with my DD 

The shops don’t close, and you can leave the house with a baby. Failing that Amazon prime is your friend when you have a newborn.

Also they don’t need that many clothes, seriously.

Don’t buy too many nappies as baby might be bigger and not fit the smaller ones.

You’ll be fine, it’s completely normal to be worried but it will all be okay.

I don’t think anyone is ever ready for their first baby.
They don’t need much, just nappies, vests babygrows a sling and a hat. We never had a nursery or a cot. You can keep it really simple if you want to.
You have several months and a whole internet of info.
But I guess it’s not really about stuff is it, it’s that totally overwhelming knowledge that you are going to have a dependant. Again everyone feels this with their first.
You’ll be grand op, you’ll feel really guilty, because that seems to be part of mothering. you’ll be really bored, and feel guilty about that too, but you’ll love her so much.

Thought I was ready for my first. She was slighter than her weight would suggest (and quite vommy) so newborn clothes bought in advance swamped her. Typically she was born Sunday afternoon so no shops open but DH went shopping on the way in to see us.

Everything else we had forgotten, we had Amazon Prime or 24h supermarket.

Am probably a bit lackadaisical at 37 +5 with no 2. I've got some clothes that will get me through a day, will send DH to supermarkets once we know how big he is (measuring large) and have an eBay bundle on the way.

24 and internet shopping make organisation less crucial, unless you live in the Highlands/Islands!

@SoyDora omg!! Id literally be pulling my hair out!

Thanks ladies, made me feel loads better, my OH is so laid back about it hes horizontal and totally feel like im preparing all by myself (ive told him this and he just tells me itll all be fine...) which doesnt help!

Ive also got my mam and sister reminding me of everything I need which again isnt helping but no matter how many times i tell them im over whelmed by it all (in tears) they continue next time I see them!

Gaaahhhh!!

I’m due December 5th and we are moving in two days and have no furniture for the whole house. I have a pram and car seat so far. Your situation doesn’t sound bad at all, do you suffer with anxiety? Could you use some positive thought exercises to help calm you down (not wishy washy hippy stuff but actually make an effort to control and re-direct your thoughts to ease your emotional state, as you must know that deep down 3 months is enough time to buy plenty of nappies)? Is there something else in your life that is making you feel like your loosing control of the situation?

I don’t know if you need a hug or for me to hiss at you for being ridiculous. Cats don’t normally freak out over babies and can’t you just buy a few big multi packs of cat food and litter? Chill out, you’ll be fine!! Just start taking little steps to help you feel more prepared...E.g. go out tomorrow and buy a pack of nappies or a blanket

Just read more posts. We were also mid renovation project. Had no stairs for a couple of days at 2 weeks old We just had baby in basket and us on floor in the sitting room. Also had ensuite as only bathroom and it was fine. Nursery was finished but used as storage space until about 9 months when DH got ill and I ended up on mattress on floor in nursery, otherwise would have kept DD in our room coz I'm lazy with night feeds!

It was all fine. Newborns don't need much stuff and can't roam around getting into trouble like older kids!

*you’re

I'm due in weeks, and have been overwhelmed by people's generosity already. I've only purchased 1 pack of nappies, but have more than enough to last a few weeks, and have a good start on neutral baby clothes.

As for cats, we have 2, and although I'm sure they'll be put out by the new arrival, I think they'll cope. I'm sure you know their personalities and how they will react

I say this to reassure you, but our ds1 arrived four weeks early, I truly wasn't ready, coy wasn't assembled, we didn't have a car seat, I had just written a list of all he things I needed to do to get ready and along he came. I can honestly tell you, you'll be fine, we needed a few sleep suits and a few nappies, he slept in the car seat (which my husband had gone to buy whilst we were in hospital!) whilst we assembled the cot once we got home with him. Babies don't need very much, just you, and somewhere safe to sleep.

I think writing it all out - the basics to get started for baby and yourself in terms of hospital bag plus the big items car seat, crib etc. Then make a wish list on Amazon. I have Tesco delivery saver and will order bits each week beforehand to spread it out- few packets of nappies, wipes, bum creams, baby wash/shampoo, vaseline, cotton wool etc. I tend to feel more in control if I have everything I possibly need for baby and me - but that's unrealistic and you know better after the birth what things would be most helpful.

Look at tapping meditation on YouTube I find it really calms me down and very easy to do.

I'm not saying this to be rude but to help you calm down. You are being completely and utterly ridiculous (assuming you live in the UK). You 100% do not need a nursery for bloody ages. Moses basket, 1 pack of nappies, a pack of muslins, a car seat, some baby grows, and a nice warm blanket. Formula and bottles etc it you're ff. Everything else you can order with Amazon prime when the baby's here as and when you need it. Or send DP to the shop.

You could literally buy everything you need for a newborn coming home in one trip to Tesco. Baby won't be in a nursery for months after they're born. Calm down.

Honestly. Don't worry. It'll be fine. Baby just needs you and a few nappies and a couple of outfits. I'm trying to not get sucked into buying loads of stuff - I think there's so much marketed at new mums you can start to feel really guilty and dragged along by it all.

We're in between work contracts when baby is due. That means no jobs, no home and no idea which country we're going to move to with our 6 week old. I think we're booking an Airbnb for the first 6 weeks of its life. We'll be living out of a couple of suitcases - us three and our dog. All our other stuffs will have been shipped on and we'll get it whenever it's cleared customs. Currently planning some baby stuff buying holidays since you can't get much recently made or priced where we are now. Don't worry. We're all making do all the time - especially with our first.

I felt a bit like this the first time around. I had twins and was insistent that everything be organsied well in advance. We bought the pushchair and car seats when I was 14 weeks, although to be fair that was in part to take advantage of the payment plan since we could have bought a secondhand car for a similar cost. Now at 33 weeks with my third I’m much more relaxed. The nursery is filled with boxes because we’ve just moved and I’ve got a few bits that I bought on sale, but not essentials like a car seat yet. You’ll quickly realise that, although you need a fair bit as you go along, very little is necessary for the first few weeks. In fact, sometimes I think it’s better to wait so you can assess what will work best for your lifestyle and baby and get it as needed. Tell your mum and sister that it’s all in hand and remind them that the shops will still be open. Alternatively, give them a list and tell them to get going, if they’re so desperate to ensure you’re prepared.

Breathe.
TBH is it the “stuff” or the worry about not being prepared?
We never decorated a nursery before bringing a baby home. Unless you live in the arse end of nowhere you can buy nappies and clothes. Or order online.
We had two cats when we brought our babies home. They retreated away from the noisy mewling critter at times but actually seemed to like having a new member of their family. They certainly didn’t move out or be distressed or bothered at all.
If you’re shutting them out of nursery or your room when the baby arrives then get them used to that.
You’ll be fine. And I say that as a total stresshead!