Worried about DH's potential gender disappointment?

[Monipop84]

Even if it wouldn't be "disappointment". He just confided in me how he feels he wouldn't make a good "boy Dad", because he's not really into football, action things etc, but likes video games and geeky things. Don't be too harsh with him - DH is clever and understands he's thinking a lot of rubbish, but I am still worried he might not bond with the baby if it's a boy. He had slight cold feet about getting pregnant in the first place. I am anxious about knowing the gender in 2 weeks (I'm thinking it might be boy somehow), and upset with myself because I shouldn't be, and I really personally don't care one way or the other. But pregnancy hormones are nasty and playing tricks on me.

im having a boy - but absolutely convinced i was having a girl - i wont lie i was "shocked" for about 24 hours then got over it. They are little people at the end of the day... the baby might not even like "boy" stuff....they might like ballet and anything but boy stuff - does it matter? :)

they are all unique individuals... embrace the baby for whatever sex they are :)

Even if you have a girl, there's a chance she'll be into football and stereotypical "boy-ish" things. Gender does not determine people's interests.

It is quite silly to be disappointed about having a boy because you don't like football, action, etc...you might have a boy who loves shopping, art and reading. There's the possibility that your child might share no interests with you whatsoever no matter the gender.

I think geeky things and gaming is generally more a boy thing anyways (if we were being silly with gender stereotypes). My DH hates football and pretty much every sport.
When kids are young they play with megs blocks and interactive toys.
They being said, his reasons for feeling the way he does are his own, even if no one particularly agrees with them.
With our first child I really wanted a girl, everyone who asked me if I had a preference I told them! DH wasn't bothered but I made no secret about it.
We had the scan . . . Baby was a boy.
It was a couple seconds of taking it in, and that was it.
I told a few family members on the phone and my mom asked me if I was devastated and if I'd cried, I felt horrible. I can't believe it come across as someone who was that invested on whether it was a boy or girl.
We went shopping for boys clothes, already had a boys name picked, and I couldn't love him anymore.
Now pregnant want DC2 and we find out the sex in 12 days, and honestly, DS had taught me I was being silly to care about something so trivial.
I hope he isn't disappointed when you find out, but give it a little time and let him get used to the idea and hopefully he'll be fine.

I don't know where I'd go with such stereotyped ideas of what boys and girls are supposed to like. Did you know he thought like this, or has it just become apparent?

I'd definitely keep repeating that the sex of the child will tell you nothing about their personality or their interests. He doesn't have to be a good "boy dad", he just has to try his best to be a dad, full stop.

Thanks everyone for your replies. DH is very liberal and doesn't believe "boys should be boys" for a second. We both detest stereotypical views of masculinity and femininity. Most of my friends are tomboy women and his friends are non-laddy guys. Iguess he's worried that if we have a son he might turn out to be a lot more "boyish" than he is and not like him very much. I know this is very contradictory, as I said it's not rational...

"Tomboy" is such a horrible, sexist word. They're just women, with different interests. As are these "non laddy" men. They're all just individuals. Even when rejected the idea, you're using the stereotyped phraseology.