Pregnancy after missed miscarriage

[Kayleigh121]

Hi all.

I am new on here. I have been reading through the posts etc but thought I’d post too.

I had a missed miscarriage in January this year found out at a scan I pushed for at the EPU due to not feeling pregnanct. Baby measured 8+6 but I would have been 10+5. It was an unplanned pregnancy and although it was unplanned it was my first pregnancy and it almost destroyed me. The heartbreak was crazy.

4 weeks ago I got a BFP. However I have never been so scared and nervous in my life. I am currently 9+4 and have a can on the 12th, but I am so worried the same thing is going to happen again and they will tell me again that I have had a miscarriage. I know I should have faith and stay positive which I am trying but I never actually understood the heartache and the worry people have with miscarriages and future pregnancies!

Hey, I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I know how devastating and heartbreaking it is. A part of you never really forgets.
I also had a miscarriage, but then after a few months I found out I was pregnant again. I use to check daily for blood etc, I was really scared of losing baby too. I spoke to my midwife and she told me that if it happens, there’s nothing that can be done to prevent it.
My advice to you would be, enjoy your pregnancy and think of the positives rather than negatives.

Hi, I'm pregnant after a missed miscarriage last year and feel the same. I read on here that it steals your pregnancy innocence and its so true.
First time pregnant last year and we were so excited, buying little bits, even though we kept saying, it's too soon! We didn't really have any expectation that things might not work out. Until they didn't.
I thought we were nearly 12 weeks but baby had not got past 8. We were heartbroken.
Horribly I also felt a bit stupid that I had spent weeks walking around feeling pregnant when I wasn't, and that is making this pregnancy trying.
We are absolutely thrilled, but so cautious about those feelings as terrified of the worst happening again.
I keep feeling my boobs to check they are still sore!
Luckily they hurt just taking my vest off last night and every symptom is a relief.
Well, I just wanted to join and say I'm right there with you, about 5 weeks.
No one understands unless they have been there.
I am trying to enjoy this and think positive and look forward to the future...
Congratulations and good luck x

Congratulations on your new pregnancy! I wish you all the luck in the world.

You’re totally correct, nobody understands unless they have been there themselves and it is totally heartbreaking.
I am exactly the same, constantly checking after going to the toilet, feeling my boobs to make sure they’re still sore. Sickness has been and gone which has a couple of times so a little worried. To the point I was doing pregnancy tests once again (i know a pregnancy test will still show positive even after a miscarriage or missed miscarriage so just ended up wasting money on them!) I have a scan this Monday and I have never been so scared in case they tell me the same thing again. I am trying my hardest to stay positive and think about the future etc but some days it does get very hard.

Hopefully I’ll have better news this time around.

Thank you for your responses and good luck to you guys too!x

@Kayleigh121, first of all congratulations!

I too had a MMC this year, should’ve been 10+3 but baby measured 9+3, this followed a miscarriage in December 2015 so I completely understand your anxiety.

The first trimester after a MC is absolute hell with regards to stress and anxiety, you’ve just got to keep yourself busy. It really takes away the enjoyment and excitement and a MMC is a particularly cruel way of losing a baby. It makes you question EVERYTHING.

I have no real advice other than to hang on in there. Every day is a day closer and a day where the chances of this pregnancy ending in a baby, go up.

I’m 10+3 at the moment and haven’t had a scan yet although my 12 week one is two weeks today.

Good luck for the 12th!

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had a really rough time. I also have had a missed miscarriage and another one where I just started bleeding at 6 weeks. I’m only just pregnant again (4 weeks today) and it’s just terrifying. I’ve been testing every day and I’m not seeing dark enough lines, I’m sure I know this is going the same way as the last 2. If that’s the case then I’m done!!!