Feeling overwhelmed

[Canders]

Hi Ladies,

I recently found out I was pregnant unexpectedly... I was 7 weeks at the time and it came as a massive shock as I was on contraception and hadn't missed any pills etc.

This year has been a really tough year for me, for many reasons and with this pregnancy... it just feels like so much is happening in such a short space of time.

I am happy about the pregnancy and I absolutely do want the baby. I am just having moments where I feel completely overwhelmed and finding myself in tears and almost a state of panic.

I think when you plan to try for a baby, you have time to think about everything, plan everything... knowing full well you could be pregnant soon.

Whereas my pregnancy has come unexpectedly and has left me feeling completely unprepared mentally.

I am scared to be honest with friends as I fear I sound so ungrateful and like a moan bag... I know I'm so lucky to be pregnant and how hard some people are having it. But I can't help with how I feel either.

Anyone else in or been in this position? I am hoping with time I will feel much better.

Someone told me you can never really plan for a baby and now I know what they meant. Sure, we talked and said we wanted one. Just didn't expect it to happen now/so soon/etc. I think if you know you are keeping your baby then take the time to be kind and patient with yourself. I'm 9 weeks today and have just about got over the shock - and mine wasn't whilst on birth control.

Good luck!

Thank you for your reply... yes maybe I just need to give myself a little time :) thank you.

I agree I think it’s just the initial shock to deal with first. Me and OH tried around a year and half ago and unfortunately I didn’t fall pregnant and we just stopped trying.. Fast forward to now, I’m 17 weeks pregnant!

I was so shocked when I found out at week 6 I was thinking, OMG I’ve got all these plans coming up what am I going to do?! (hen parties, weddings, Christmas! etc) I too was telling people that I’m really grateful just wish I was more prepared but you’d wait forever for that right moment. I’d probably say from around week 10/11 I calmed down and was well and truley over the moon. It’s definately the shock.

Congratulations on your pregnancy though!