Terrified of stillbirth, ABIU to request induction?

[nervousmumtobe1987]

I'm lucky to have a very active baby but whenever she stops moving I panic. Two friends in the past two years have had stillbirths, completely unexplained , both babies born alive but died within 24 hours. And three other close mates with babies with rare disorders that are life threatening.

I'm 35 weeks on weekly scans as my baby has been measuring just a wee bit small but otherwise healthy. Will they induce me or give me a caesarean if I request for anxiety? I'm really starting to struggle and every day seem to work myself into a state.

I'm trying to focus on all of the other babies that I know that are healthy but it feels like disease and death are all around me.

Just to clarify (which my post completely didn't so I can see why it was misinterpreted) I don't mean make up that you have reduced movements to go to the MAU OP. Your OP states you often panic about movements, so what I mean is, if you're panicking, you will need to be monitored on those occasions, in order to be taken seriously. I went in countless times, each one, I was genuinely worried. It wasn't to get an early sweep, that's just where I ended up. Each visit involved hours of waiting so I wouldn't recommend doing it for no reason.

I had bad anxiety with my first pregnancy. Like you I knew several people who had lost babies or had complications during delivery that left their children disabled. I'd been on medication for my anxiety but had stopped taking it when I found out I was pregnant as I was so afraid of it harming my baby. I spent my whole first tri terrified of miscarrying, then my second terrified of pre term labour, then my third terrified of still birth/ complications. DS measured small towards the end of my pregnancy and I was finally induced at term with suspected IUGR. I couldn't wait for DS to be born as I though once I could see him and hold him and see for myself he was ok my anxiety would decrease. But once he was born I just spent my time terrified of SIDS. Honestly, two years later I still am finding new stuff to keep myself awake worrying about. Don't be me - talk to your GP and midwife's and get help with your anxiety. An induction won't solve the problem, believe me.

Not sure why people are saying you can’t have a c section.
It is absolutely your right to request a c section and you don’t need to have mental health reasons or physical health problems.
It could just be because you have decided c section risks are preferable to that of vaginal delivery.

If that was a route you wanted to take it would probably be done at 39+ weeks.

It is your right to request this. And nice guidelines say it should be an option. See page 7.
www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg132/resources/caesarean-section-pdf-35109507009733

However not all trusts are abiding by the nice guidelines.
If you look on this page there is a map you can see your trusts local policy and birth rights investigation into how trusts handle requests for c sections.
www.birthrights.org.uk/maternal-request-caesarean/

As for comments that it is an expensive operation, costing the nhs more, the birth rights report estimates the cost of a c section at £700 more than a vaginal delivery. And by the time they treat the incontinence that can often be associated with vaginal delivery the cost reduces to only £84 more.
It makes me quite angry the stigma that is placed onto women for requesting c sections for this small extra cost, when people get all kinds of healthcare free from the nhs due to conditions that their lifestyle has led them to. Whilst they are completely entitled to free healthcare whatever their lifestyle, I don’t see why the cost arguement should be used against women who want a c section, when in realty it is a very small amount.

Be warned that a c section carries with it many significant and serious risks also, it is not a decision to be made lightly. However most of these risks are for the mother.
statistically some research suggests it is safer for a baby to be born by planned c section than vaginally where there are far more variables.

Good luck whatever you do.