Pregnant after a miscarriage

[whattodo89]

Hello everyone. I'm a newbie.

I had a missed miscarriage in August and it was absolutely horrific. I had surgical management and emotionally I was pretty close to destroyed. Luckily I have two children and tried to focus on them.

Anyway, I've just got a positive test. I am so early, will be four weeks on Monday so super duper early. I've never found out so soon before (this is my first planned pregnancy!).

Anyway, I'm just so sad because I don't feel at all excited. I feel like this is just a tiny step in the direction of having a baby but it doesn't mean anything. But then I get waves of hope that I'm trying to push away.

I found the pregnacare I was taking in my last pregnancy and have taken one and then worried these were 'cursed' (I know, completely irrational) and even writing this I feel like I'm jinxing it almost.

Did anyone struggle after a loss? I have so many thoughts and emotions it's exhausting.

I feel the same , almost identical circumstances xx

And me. Very similar circumstances. Had a miscarriage in May. Been trying to conceive ever since and got BFP this week. I don’t feel anything! Can’t get excited, can’t talk about it and am constantly waiting to miscarry again.
Today is a particularly bad day as I arrived home to find a parcel on the door step from Emma’s Diary with some freebies for my new baby (which would have been due this month!)

Sorry to hear you ladies are going through this too. I think what makes it hardest is I always thought a miscarriage means cramps and bleeding. I had nothing, absolutely nothing. I felt pregnant still, the baby had just stopped growing. Three weeks after my surgery my tests were still positive it was awful. So until I'm seeing a baby with a heartbeat at 12 weeks I'm in limbo.

Hi hun I've had 2 mc one in Jan at 7 weeks and a mmc in June at 14 (baby died at over 9) was discovered at nuchal scan. I'm currently 13 weeks and this baby is really testing me! No symptoms at all like mmc, brown discharge like mmc, but I've had 2 gigantic red bleeds with clots and little bean is still in there! Ring the epu and see if they will scan you early and just take it one day at a time. I still don't feel safe now at all it's awful xx

Hi, your story is literally the same as mine. Surgical management with MMC and another MC with bleeding. I’m now only just 4 weeks pregnant and am blocking it out, I’m pretending it’s not happening. I did another test this morning and the lines aren’t getting darker so I’m feeling even less optimistic! For me, prentending that it’s jist a late period and I’m eating for that is the only way I can cope. I was in such a state after the last MC I don’t know how I’d cope with another one so this is my way of protecting myself. If you find a better way please share. Wishing you luck and best wishes

Waiting , not eating!!!! I certainly can’t face eating right now!!

Happened to me. 3m after miscarriage pregnant again. Think it effected me quite badly as when D's was born I didn't show him proper affection either!
Also bit later found I was pregnant again. So nervous. New I was having miscarriage as soon as pain came. 8wks and hadn't even been to Dr at this point. Then weeks after found I was pregnant again, I was nervous again, so careful too. Went to booking scan and as I didn't have a period after miscarriage didn't know how far along I was so they gave me a scan (due to someone cancelling) turned out my booking app I thought I was 8 or 9 wks I was 14wks. When we worked it out, I conceived only 3 days after miscarriage!
Thankful for my two rainbow babies!

I’m still waiting for my rainbow baby. Even though I’m pregnant again I just know it won’t work out. This sucks so much.