Help, just found out I'm pregnant with my third

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Hi everyone, I'm totally new here, despite the site having been on my radar throughout being pregnant with my first two children. They are now 7 and 5 years old, I've just completed a Master's degree and was kind of excited about regaining some independence and having a 'proper' career. Last night I found out I was pregnant again, total surprise. Husband is happy and supportive (albeit agrees it wasn't what we ideally wanted). I'm now at a loss because, and I feel awful about this, if I'm honest it's not making me jump for joy. I feel like I've passed the baby and toddler stages now, I've no pushchair, no car seat, no cot no flipping jumperoo and I'm terrified of going back to all that. Added to that is complete panic, my first arrived unexpectedly at 33 weeks and my second had sepsis (life saved by a blood transfusion) at 13 months. All in all, I feel panic. Add to that I'm now what you would call an older mum. Could someone please help me calm down? Will I ever have my own life back? Will this be OK? I know most of these answers in truth, and I've known less than 24 hours so it could be shock, but I wonder if I'm alone in feeling so adrift. I was so excited about my previous two... Any support gratefully received. Thank you so much.

It would be fine, of course it would. Your muddle through.

But is it something you want? If not, you do have options 

*you'll

You know you can do this - you’ve had the worst throw at you, twice, but you’ve still managed even if it might have been bloody hard. Third time lucky and all that - this might be your easy baby!
I’d go for counselling personally get you over your past traumatic experiences

And congratulations

My third was a surprise, same age gap as your children too. He starts school next year so I’m on the other side of the baby/toddler stuff but I wouldn’t change anything. I’m actually feeling a bit sad that it’s all behind me... You will be fine x

Oh, and I had a horrendous birth experience with my second. He also had health issues when he was a baby and spent some time in hospital. I honestly thought I was done as I didn’t want to go through that again. Thankfully, third baby was textbook birth and no health issue to date.

Thank you all for your kind words. After I got my two to bed this evening I've sat quietly and feel like I'm coming to terms with it all a bit more. I'll get through this and, as mentioned, maybe this one will be less traumatic!

My third was a surprise. I cried my eyes out to my poor GP! I’d had Pre eclampsia twice and two traumatic births.

DC is an absolutely gorgeous little boy who has totally completed our family and we are smitten with him.

Good luck with it OP x

I’d honestly recommend trauma counseling - or more if you’ve already had some.

Thank you, thank you, and thank you again. I'd never considered counselling for the previous events but maybe they are causing my worry now. I've really appreciated your comments this evening, they've helped a lot. Much love x