Can't agree on a name

[Htaylor182]

This is my second child, OH first. the name I ended up picking with my first was actually one my mum suggested at the beginning and I stuck my nose up at it. And then after we had our gender scan and found out it was a girl, I said it just fits so we called her what my mum had originally suggested.
This time around pretty much same thing, were having a boy though, we had girls names sorted ish.OH is a tree surgeon and wanted tree based names which is easy for a girl, Willow etc. I have re read names books over and over could not find a boys name I liked. And then one day I stumbled accross a name and it just 'clicked'. I don't know anyone with that name, and it's unusual but not too out there.
Now OH says it's not a strong manly name. He likes Oryan, Zuess, Illex.all really stupid, weird names (apologies if anyone has actually called their child this) but for me they are just ridiculous. It's actually making me become really anxious and panicky that I am going to be lumbered with having to choose one of his names when I have already called the baby the name I want. I said he can choose a middle name but again he's coming up with stupid choices, Forrest (which he desperately wants as a first name too). Our surname begins with G, and we've got a tree surgery business I just said it was too much.
My mum loves the name I have picked and so does his mum, but his step mum (who we live next too) doesn't really like it but says it's up to BOTH of you not just one sided. She keeps coming up with alternative names, asking the cousins to name it etc and I have to listen to it all but I know what I am calling him.
OH wants it to be a perfect name, everything he wants he gets normally. But I am not willing to budge on this. I fear that he will never find that 'perfect' name. It's actually making me dislike him. We've got about 3 months left and I know if I call it the name I want he's going to throw his toys out of the pram big time. Probably seems insignificant to many but Its really stressing me out. Has anyone been in this situation how did you resolve it to get a name you both wanted?

You are criticising him but are also saying you are not willing to budge. His name choices are stupid but yours is not a lot better, although it is a bit better but it is still a bit out there.

I think you should leave mums, cousins etc out of it, has got nothing to do with them. You both need to compromise. I am tempted to think you both drop the weird names and find some common ground.

I like Ash and Lyndon but not my choice.
We never did come up with a boys name

Dara is lrish for oak.
I agree with postrr saying stop discussing it with neighbours and cousins. Thats too confusing.
If all goes to all wait until you are in the throes of labour and then dh will promise you anything!!!!

Just to add.. Eoin in lrish means Lord of the Yew..so another tree.
Im desperate to save you from Zeus which is not good.
How about Woody???

Hi Op I know Arlo is quite popular at the moment. I think that's a nature related one. Me and my DH used to talk about names a lot even before we got pregnant and we liked different style names - we couldn't agree on boys names.
When we found out he was a boy we loosely thought of one we both thought was ok but liked different short versions so that wasn't going to work and neither of us felt it was quite right or 'us'. Anyway we basically both ended up writing a list of names we liked - we had about 15/20 each ( there was no limit just ended up that way) and ended up with about 4-5 that we both had on our lists, I couldn't believe it as it was such a stalemate before- I honestly feel we would never have got to our fav boys name at this point without doing this. There is a list on google of 2015 top uk boys 1000 names which I used for mine so you could both look over that (couldn't find 2018 one that big). Also name berry is apparently good but it is full of lists of types of names and I just wanted to scroll down in big one!
Good luck it used to stress me out loads so I feel you! I've still got 5 months to go and it is a weight off my mind - unless one of us changes our mind!