Zero sex drive

[blueberry71]

I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I've had literally no sex drive since we conceived this baby in July. I even dread the thought of having sex with my oh. I was never like this before I was pregnant and I know it's absolutely nothing to do with my oh but I feel so guilty. He's not pressured me one bit to have sex with him but I know he's getting a little fed up with it. Is anyone else experiencing this as well? Any advice welcome.

No advice but i can empathise. I’m 22 weeks and we haven’t had sex since we found out (at 8 weeks). I find the thought of sex knowing there’s “someone in there” very icky. DH is relaxed about it but he’s never had a high sex drive so it’s not a massive issue.

Only advice i guess is that there’s other stuff you can do without going all the way! You might find that a bit of foreplay gets you in the mood? If not it’s better than nothing for DH!

Me too! My pelvis is so sore and I feel like a giant whale (only 20 weeks) so it's the last thing on my mind

Same. I don't have the physical urge, but I definitely do want to emotionally, it makes me feel close to my partner. On the odd occasion I don't feel crap I've just been getting on with it even if I'm not physically horny, and have found that once we've started I get into it. And a stonking orgasm definitely took the edge off my morning sickness for a while! Lube is your friend if you're not really feeling it but want to give it a try.

Thanks for the replies. I might try and give it a go tonight if I'm not too tired. After running around after my 19 month old and terrible backache, it's the last thing I want to do when I go to bed! I do remember having absolutely no sex drive in my last pregnancy but I had more energy to just get on with it. This time around I'd much rather a hot chocolate and sleep!

Exactly the same here - 17 weeks on Saturday and even though I still fancy my partner as much as ever, I'm finding it too weird to have sex. Also I'm shattered and just want to cuddle and watch TV in the evenings. It's odd because I really didn't think this would be an issue for me!

First trimester and into the second I felt too sick to even contemplate it. We've had sex once in the second trimester and my bits hurt like hell for days afterwards, although it was nice at the time. Just entering the third trimester and I feel gigantic and ungainly and really just CBA. Although I'll probably make the effort for my husband's sake (not that he puts any pressure on at all) and I know I'll enjoy it if/when we do. It just mustering up the energy is difficult!

I felt like that in my first pregnancy with my Dd. It came back once she was born.

My second pregnancy with Ds had my dh attempting to run for the hills as it went through the roof 🙈😱.

I'm glad I'm not the only one! We have done it once or twice since we found out about the baby. The last time though I had to stop half way through as just wasn't feeling it and was uncomfortable. DH is being very good about and doesn't mention it but I still feel bad. I'm 23 weeks and keep hoping maybe that'll change!

I'm 10+6 and exactly the same since week 4! DH doesn't mind since we can still do other things. Try that maybe? You'll feel so much better to take the pressure of sex off.

Same. It’s uncomfortable with all these stretching pains etc plus I find it weird as there’s a baby in me. Ha. He will have to deal with it!

I didn’t want to at all first trimester but much better now in second. Mornings are easier as feel so bloated and tired at night.

So didn't do the deed last night but did other things and oh was very happy so it was worth it in the end. Hopefully that shuts him up for a while ha ha.

We had sex about three times during my entire pregnancy. I’m now 5 weeks post partum and absolutely gagging for it! Can’t wait for 6 week check up and to get some contraception. So don’t worry, your libido might come back quickly afterwards!

If you don't want to do it don't do it. Sure he'll survive!

I'm nearly 30 weeks and haven't gone there at all! Hubby is brilliant and never asks. We kiss and cuddle and snuggle a lot but that's it! He does have a lower sex drive so it isn't bothering him much at all.

I didn’t do it the whole pregnancy, and baby is 14 weeks now and still haven’t, I just don’t fancy it . I’m going to try tonight though, as I feel so bad for my husband

I'm nearly 38 weeks and mostly I just don't have the inclination very weird, not normal for me really. Sometimes I do feel like it and then half the time DP has gone to work or there isn't time or something.

One time after a, ahem marathon session, my bits swelled up and were so incredibly painful I was put right off but eventually horniness got the better of me but it did put a dampener on things. 

It's awful isn't it! Last time I was pregnant I lost my sex drive the whole pregnancy as well and the whole time I was breastfeeding. It was lovely to feel it come back when I weaned my dd. My oh is really good about it but I still feel a little guilty about it sometimes. It was nice to put a smile on his face last night.

Ooo Groovee,you are just like me! Two DD, no sex drive but with DS (in the middle) my libido went through the roof.
I always wonder if someone should research it ...

Im 39 weeks and we havent had sex since 15 weeks when i found out

Dont want to hurt baby/ dont lile being touched at the moment. Last pregnancy had sex about once a month so think might be hormones/exhausted